Giving Nature a Good Name
Book reviews of The Soul of Recovery; Trauma Practice in the Wake of September 11, 2001; and Love at Goon Park Read more
In Search of a Balance
Informing our children of both the beauties and dangers of sexA book review of Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex by Judith Levine Read more
The Awful Truth
Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be IntimateAfter the publication of my book, 'I Don't Want to Talk about It,' I started getting calls from people around the United States who wanted help. Naming the... Read more
Assessing the New 'Energy' Therapies
We still don't know why they work, or if they really doA book review Read more
Teacher as Healer
The challenges of the classroom cast the therapist's role in a new lightA good education is preventive medicine. It strengthens one's mental, emotional and spiritual immune system. Read more
What Textbooks Don't Tell You
Acknowledging the complexities of real-life therapyAcknowledging the complexities of real-life therapy Read more
Manners Matter
Respecting the etiquette of effective psychotherapyFrom the July/August 1997 issue Whenever I talk about my belief in the link between etiquette and successful psychotherapy, people exclaim “Manners?... Read more
The Anatomy of Resilience
New research reveals what helps people shake off adversityWe have clues about what makes some people prevail over psychological adversity... Read more
The Rhythms of Couplehood
A jazz drummer tunes in to how a couple organizes time Read more
Oh, How Happy We Will Be
The Future of HealthcareThe pharmaceutical industry spends $10 billion on promotion every year. Is it so surprising that talk therapy is disappearing beneath the onslaught of today's... Read more
More than Love
The Parents of Adolescents Go Through Their Own Tumultuous PassageFor parents who are chronically pressed for time and feel increasingly impotent in the face of the perils that litter their teen's lives, backing off from... Read more
Work Spirit
Helping People Create More Satisfying Work LivesFew people today are willing to accept a bad relationship, yet many settle for jobs that don't bring out the best in them. Some practical ideas for helping... Read more
A Primer on Death
In our technological society, real death is hidden away while fantasized deaths are available for viewing in dizzying numbers. It's time to separate our... Read more
The Good Therapist
Continually Reassessing Its Role, Psychotherapy Gallops into a New EraThe culture of therapy in America has gone through periods of dramatic change every 15 or 20 years with almost clock-like regularity, as succeeding generations... Read more
Friendship with a Price Tag?
What does account for a goodly chunk of the positive change that clients experience from therapy, the outcome research shows, is the time-honored therapeutic... Read more
The Gift of Friendship
Bringing an Invaluable Resource into the Therapy RoomWe're pairing up later, splitting up faster, remarrying less often and increasingly deciding to avoid the whole quagmire by staying permanently single. In... Read more
Crazy Like a Fox
Remembering Carl WhitakerWhen Carl Whitaker died at age 83 on April 21st of this year after a long illness, it might be said that the therapy world lost its oldest, wisest and most... Read more
Emerging from the Shadows
Looking Beyond the Borderline DiagnosisIn the minds of many therapists, the borderline diagnosis has come to be a code word for trouble. To get past our sense of helplessness with these clients, we... Read more
Miniature Roses
A therapist finally makes the long journey home"Mom, I think it's time to really forgive you, and maybe even me. But I'm still mad. I just don't know how to let go of it. Believe it or not, I've been trying... Read more
Incorrigible
We need more realistic expectations about the possibilities of human transformation Read more
Overpromised, Underresearched
Where's the science in psychotherapy? Read more
Getting Well in the Fast Lane
Therapy on the information highway a strange fiction based on a stranger reality. Article first published in the September/October 1994 issue. TODAY, IN THE... Read more
Swallowed Alive
Not surprisingly, almost nothing makes children, including adolescents, feel as insecure and adrift as parents who also feel insecure and adrift, tossed by... Read more
Duty of Care
From the July/August 1994 issue IN A WIDELY PUBLICIZED TRIAL last May anxiously followed by therapists around the country, a jury in Napa County... Read more
Leaving the Mothering to Mother
Helping a parent become accountableFrom the July/August 1994 issue AS A PSYCHOLOGIST IN AN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, I AM involved in the day-to-day lives of children, not as someone set apart from... Read more
Day Child/Night Child
Two sisters find different ways to live with the nightmare of sexual abuse. Read more
Which Side Are You On?
Every day, warring and desperate husbands and wives show up in our offices agonizing over divorce. Have we been too blithe in encouraging them to go ahead, too... Read more
Why Marriages Fail
Some intriguing findings refute popular myths about marriage. Read more