Clinical Practice & Guidance

Therapy can too easily become reduced to two talking heads, spinning out tales. But treatment can be intensified and enlivened by tapping into our immediate... Read more

Until recently, our understanding of "enlightenment" has been shrouded in spiritual hero worship. But we're beginning to see it as a thoroughly natural... Read more

The practice of therapy, for both therapist and client, is transformed when we connect with our fundamental core, a process that involves learning to listen... Read more

Thrivers are not Pollyannas. They are not blindly optimistic and are far from showing the often irritating feigned cheerfulness that can result from trying to... Read more

The Family Dialogue Project grew out of my attempt to help therapists, abuse survivors, and their families caught in the meshes of terrible conflicts from... Read more

A dirty little secret in the therapy field is that couples therapy may be the hardest form of therapy, and most therapists aren't good at it. Of course, this... Read more

"I doubt that I would fit many people's image of a therapist who would violate sexual boundaries with a client. Before it happened, I certainly did not fit my... Read more

As the digital revolution permeates and alters our lives, therapists are increasingly called upon to become the guides to a balance between the allure of... Read more

Stepfamilies enact unique morality plays with plots involving, betrayal, heroic commitment and Solomon-like discernment. They Illuminate like no other family... Read more

From the March/April 1999 issue Heighten Awareness of All the Senses William Masters and Virginia Johnson introduced to the West a technique called... Read more

How to get clients to do their homework assignments Read more

From the July/August 1997 issue Whenever I talk about my belief in the link between etiquette and successful psychotherapy, people exclaim “Manners?! You... Read more

Families facing a disabling illness often take refuge in a collective folie. Read more

This article first appeared in the March/April 1996 issue.   1. Take a few minutes in the morning to be quiet and meditate sit or lie down and be... Read more

In the "talking cure" of therapy, silence is usually associated with resistance, denial and shame. But silence may also be a recognition that ordinary language... Read more

In the Middle Ages, Gregory Lynn would have been considered possessed by demons. Today, he's diagnosed with a profound neurochemical imbalance called... Read more

In the minds of many therapists, the borderline diagnosis has come to be a code word for trouble. To get past our sense of helplessness with these clients, we... Read more

Today, more than ever, parents need to get in synch. Read more

How to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. Read more

Not surprisingly, almost nothing makes children, including adolescents, feel as insecure and adrift as parents who also feel insecure and adrift, tossed by... Read more

From the July/August 1994 issue AS A PSYCHOLOGIST IN AN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, I AM involved in the day-to-day lives of children, not as someone set apart from... Read more

From the July/August 1994 issue THE PHRASE, “THE MELTING POT” ORIGINALLY CAME FROM THE title of a popular turn-of-the-century play that ended... Read more

Every day, warring and desperate husbands and wives show up in our offices agonizing over divorce. Have we been too blithe in encouraging them to go ahead, too... Read more

From the May/June 1994 issue IN THE SPRING OF 1991, MY MOTHER, A MENNONITE AND a nurse-midwife, called me from rural Pennsylvania. “Can you give me... Read more