
Clinical Practice & Guidance
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A Disciplined Protocol for Troubled TeensA professor skeptical of the clinical value of family therapy may be doing more to extend the legacy of systems therapy than anyone working with adolescents... Read more
Avoiding Clinical Drift
Learning how to use CARE with your clientsCBT offers a clinical toolbox that ensures that treatment never becomes merely unfocused chitchat. Read more
Facing Our Worst Fears
Finding the Courage to Stay in the MomentA therapist helps his anxious clients discover that be not resisting what the present moment offers, they can find a way out of their suffering. Read more
Are You There for Me?
Understanding the Foundations of Couples ConflictAnd yet, I wondered, if we didn't have a theory of adult love and emotion, how could we truly understand what marriage was all about, let alone help couples... Read more
The Art and Science of Love
Can the Gottmans Bring Empirical Rigor to the Intuitive World of Couples Therapy?After studying 3,000 couples in the past three decades, researcher John Gottman and his wife Julie are combining his research and her clinical savvy in a... Read more
Small Things Often
The Gottman Method in a NutshellA Gottman Method therapist coaches couples to build marital friendships, rather than trying to engineer dramatic breakthroughs. Read more
You Mean I'm Not Lazy?
Giving Adult Clients with ADHD the Tools to SucceedFrom July/August 2006 issue, a therapist shares how to help adult clients with ADHD be successful in therapy. Read more
Phone Sex and the Rabbi
Discovering the Normal in the DeviantA therapist works with a rabbi struggling with his mental health and developing false relationships with phone sex operators. Read more
Riding the Waves of Grief
Practical Tools for Clients and TherapistsKumar answers a question about how to deal with clients who have suffered devastating losses. The first thing a therapist must do is to reassure the client by... Read more
Getting Uncoupled
Anger Can Blind a Marriage Long After DivorceJust because a couple is legally divorced doesn't mean that they're not emotionally still married. Read more
Sexual Heroin
Variant Arousal Patterns are an Obstacle to IntimacyAn erotic fetish disrupts a man's sexual history as well as his current relationship Read more
Converting Calls into Clients
How to make the most of first contactHow to move from the first phone call to booking an appointment Read more
In Praise of the Older Therapist
Probing the Heart of Clinical WisdomAmong the more curious findings of the therapy-research literature is the failure to show that experienced clinicians get any better results than novices... Read more
Turning "I Can't" into "I Will"
How to Motivate Depressed ClientsGetting a depressed client mobilized to take the initial steps toward change can be the key to treatment. Read more
A Different Kind of Presence
Bringing Body-Centered Experience into Your WorkTherapy can too easily become reduced to two talking heads, spinning out tales. But treatment can be intensified and enlivened by tapping into our immediate... Read more
The Larger Self
Discovering the Core Within Our MultiplicityThe practice of therapy, for both therapist and client, is transformed when we connect with our fundamental core, a process that involves learning to listen... Read more
Enlightenment Reframed
When East Meets West in the Consulting RoomUntil recently, our understanding of "enlightenment" has been shrouded in spiritual hero worship. But we're beginning to see it as a thoroughly natural... Read more
The Beethoven Factor
The People Who Thrive in the Face of Extreme Adversity May Surprise YouThrivers are not Pollyannas. They are not blindly optimistic and are far from showing the often irritating feigned cheerfulness that can result from trying to... Read more
Constructing The Third Reality
How to move from conflict to coexistenceThe Family Dialogue Project grew out of my attempt to help therapists, abuse survivors, and their families caught in the meshes of terrible conflicts from... Read more
Bad Couples Therapy
Getting Past the Myth of Therapist NeutralityHere are the mistakes both beginning and experienced couples therapists commit, and how you can avoid them. Read more
The Slippery Slope
Violating the Ultimate Therapeutic Taboo"I doubt that I would fit many people's image of a therapist who would violate sexual boundaries with a client. Before it happened, I certainly did not fit my... Read more
Beeper in the Bedroom
Technology has become a therapeutic issueAs the digital revolution permeates and alters our lives, therapists are increasingly called upon to become the guides to a balance between the allure of... Read more
Divided Loyalty
The Challenge of Stepfamily LifeStepfamilies enact unique morality plays with plots involving, betrayal, heroic commitment and Solomon-like discernment. They Illuminate like no other family... Read more
Tantra at Home
Modern Tantric techniques to improve anyone's sex lifeFrom the March/April 1999 issue Heighten Awareness of All the Senses William Masters and Virginia Johnson introduced to the West a technique called... Read more
The Dog Ate It
When clients don't do their homeworkHow to get clients to do their homework assignments Read more
Manners Matter
Respecting the etiquette of effective psychotherapyFrom the July/August 1997 issue Whenever I talk about my belief in the link between etiquette and successful psychotherapy, people exclaim “Manners?! You... Read more
Families facing a disabling illness often take refuge in a collective folie. Read more
This article first appeared in the March/April 1996 issue. 1. Take a few minutes in the morning to be quiet and meditate sit or lie down and be... Read more
The Shadow of Evil
How Do You Speak about the Unspeakable?In the "talking cure" of therapy, silence is usually associated with resistance, denial and shame. But silence may also be a recognition that ordinary language... Read more