Case Study
Finding Flow
Embracing your worst can bring out your bestLearning to enhance performance by embracing doubt and fear. Read more
The Teenager Who Was a Liar
Helping a family redefine its storyFacing the challenge of working with a dissembling adolescent in a blended family means changing the "official story" of the problem. Read more
Like a Ghost
Using EMDR to Revive a Traumatized Vet’s MarriageEMDR helps a young Irag War vet and his wife emerge from the nightmare of his war experience. Read more
A Complicated Grieving
Death, guilt, and anger are an explosive mix"Complicated grief" resulting from unresolved guilt, anger, shame, and regret can fester on for many years. Read more
Phone Sex and the Rabbi
Discovering the Normal in the DeviantA therapist works with a rabbi struggling with his mental health and developing false relationships with phone sex operators. Read more
Sexual Heroin
Variant Arousal Patterns are an Obstacle to IntimacyAn erotic fetish disrupts a man's sexual history as well as his current relationship Read more
The New 'Mixed' Marriage
Working with a couple when one partner is gayIn 2004, the outing of New Jersey Governor James McGreever brought widespread attention to the new "mixed marriage ." But the issues such couples struggle with... Read more
Undercurrents
When Therapy StallsWhen therapy stalls, it's usually time to investigate the undercurrents that nobody wants to talk about. Read more
Beyond Viagra
Why the Promise of Cure Far Exceeds the RealityDespite all the hoopla, the dropout rate for Viagra exceeds 40 percent. A case explores the aspects of middle-aged sexuality that no drug can address. Read more
Beyond Acceptance
It's Never Too Late to Open Your HeartA woman who wants to learn a new way to be with her mother teaches her therapist what it means to step out of his own comfort zone. Read more
What Textbooks Don't Tell You
Acknowledging the complexities of real-life therapyAcknowledging the complexities of real-life therapy Read more
Manners Matter
Respecting the etiquette of effective psychotherapyFrom the July/August 1997 issue Whenever I talk about my belief in the link between etiquette and successful psychotherapy, people exclaim “Manners?! You... Read more
A jazz drummer tunes in to how a couple organizes time Read more
Turning Down the Temperature
Handling one of marriage's most explosive crisesHow to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. Read more
Leaving the Mothering to Mother
Helping a parent become accountableFrom the July/August 1994 issue AS A PSYCHOLOGIST IN AN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL, I AM involved in the day-to-day lives of children, not as someone set apart from... Read more
Long-Distance Therapy
Helping an isolated family heal their traumaFrom the May/June 1994 issue IN THE SPRING OF 1991, MY MOTHER, A MENNONITE AND a nurse-midwife, called me from rural Pennsylvania. “Can you give me... Read more