Despite all the intellectual excitement it generated, the hard truth is that, so far, the systems revolution hasn’t led to very effective ways of doing... Read more

By questioning some of the fundamental premises of traditional marriage, couples therapist Esther Perel has become, at least for the moment, psychotherapy’s... Read more

Infidelity expert Shirley Glass discusses how much disclosure is needed for a couple to heal after an affair. Read more

Even if we believe that tender intimacy is the gold standard of erotic communication, can’t attachment be expressed in other ways? Read more

What does it take to restore physical intimacy to a failing relationship? In this video clip, Susan Johnson, the originator of Emotionally Focused Couples... Read more

Cross-cultural couples face challenges that often aren’t addressed in therapy. Read more

According to renowned couples therapist Julie Gottman, one of the main predictors of a romantic relationship's success or failure is how well partners can... Read more

Michele Weiner-Davis learns a surprising lesson when she reevaluates whether certain foundational rules for infidelity recovery really help her clients heal. Read more

Three simple steps from Buddhism to help hostile spouses cultivate a spirit of nonviolence, generosity, and compassion toward their ex-partners. Read more

Are you working with partners who can't seem to escape cycles of criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling? According to renowned couples therapist... Read more

Could eliminating blocks in couples therapy be as simple as learning where to tap? Read more

An interview with the author of The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman, explains its remarkable success. Read more

Terry Real shares the story of a couple’s transformation leading up to, and in the wake of, unexpectedly losing their daughter. Read more

Hedy Schleifer tells the story of a client couple that transform resentment and silence into shared acknowledgements of inner worlds and renewed intimacy. Read more

Mary Jo Barrett reflects on her first abuse case and learning how healing can begin when clients are trusted to define what they truly need. Read more

In at least 30 percent of couples who come to therapy, partners enter the consulting room with different agendas---one wants a divorce, the other wants to save... Read more

On college campuses across the country, hooking up has all but replaced traditional, old-school dating rituals. With its rawness and frantic incoherence... Read more

Therapists need to be prepared to go against the conventional clinical wisdom in helping later-life recouplers and stepfamilies handle the unique challenges... Read more

If you’re like most couples therapists, you know how to help partners communicate more clearly, handle conflict with less uproar, and connect more... Read more

Since many of us grew up in sexual silence, therapists need to ask more probing questions for good couples therapy. Read more

If you’re going to help a couple get closer and really learn to work harmoniously with one another, whether in bed or anywhere else, the key is helping... Read more

Porn is polarizing. Porn is confusing. Porn can be alarming. For therapists, porn can push us out of our comfort zone and trigger negative countertransference... Read more

In a sex-starved marriage, one spouse longs for more physical touch or sex than the other, sometimes placing the marriage at risk of infidelity and divorce. Read more

Therapists too often ignore the importance of the longstanding, often unconscious stories that partners carry with them into their sexual relationship. Helping... Read more

When clients are emotionally worked up, caught in fight-flight-freeze mode, all their hard-earned skills in empathic listening and responsible (and responsive... Read more

The pioneers who birthed couples and family therapy never paused to scienti cally study the relationships they treated. Now, after systematically observing and... Read more

Are you a therapist that's "marriage friendly?" It's the inclination towards helping clients in good relationships stay together. Read more

While many therapists are skeptical of open relationships, some believe that, with the right couple, they can work. Read more

A therapist shares how to walk with a client couple through to their divorce and then let them go. Read more

The therapist's job is to help client couples close one door and open another. Read more