First Person

Sometimes, trying to stay calm under pressure sets you up for dealing with it in isolation. It feels counterintuitive to head toward vulnerability. That was my... Read more

It isn’t easy to learn self-care. Sometimes, you need to go through a fiery furnace to arrive at a place of centeredness. Read more

Despite our best intentions, sometimes our problems grow so big that they slam into our work—and the result can be surprising. Read more

When a therapist finally confronts his tendency to dissociate, his work takes a life-changing turn. Read more

Many therapists wrestle with the same problems we help our clients tame. But the myth that therapists are masters of their own mental health makes it... Read more

Finding solace after the death of an absent father. Read more

A terrifying journey shows just how much psychotic delusions are embedded in the unquestioned essence of a person’s thinking—as true as ocean, ground, and... Read more

In the therapy field, especially, we tend to view self-deception as a path to any number of bad ends, like a sense of failure when reality collides with... Read more

When our kids no longer need us to be problem solvers, what do we become? Read more

A cancer diagnosis, while devastating, can be a powerful teacher. Through the fear and anxiety, we can discover how to reliably calm ourselves and ask for... Read more