Push up against a resistant client, you get more resistance. Try a comforting, helpful approach, and you can undermine a client’s motivation to act. So what’s a therapist to do?
According to Clifton Mitchell, author of Effective Techniques for Dealing with Highly Resistant Clients, a highly effective option is the “Columbo” approach. Ask about every aspect of the client’s life. Listen carefully and you’re likely to hear a flash of anger, a hint of self-disgust, or some equally charged spark of emotion. Follow that clue and you’re on the way to identifying the emotionally compelling reason for your resistant client to change.
Clifton Mitchell is a professor at East Tennessee State University, where he received the Teacher of the Year award in 2002. He’s the author of Effective Techniques for Dealing with Highly Resistant Clients.
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