Couples
Are You There for Me?
Understanding the Foundations of Couples ConflictAnd yet, I wondered, if we didn't have a theory of adult love and emotion, how could we truly understand what marriage was all about, let alone help couples... Read more
The Art and Science of Love
Can the Gottmans Bring Empirical Rigor to the Intuitive World of Couples Therapy?After studying 3,000 couples in the past three decades, researcher John Gottman and his wife Julie are combining his research and her clinical savvy in a... Read more
Small Things Often
The Gottman Method in a NutshellA Gottman Method therapist coaches couples to build marital friendships, rather than trying to engineer dramatic breakthroughs. Read more
Getting Uncoupled
Anger Can Blind a Marriage Long After DivorceJust because a couple is legally divorced doesn't mean that they're not emotionally still married. Read more
Sexual Heroin
Variant Arousal Patterns are an Obstacle to IntimacyAn erotic fetish disrupts a man's sexual history as well as his current relationship Read more
The New 'Mixed' Marriage
Working with a couple when one partner is gayIn 2004, the outing of New Jersey Governor James McGreever brought widespread attention to the new "mixed marriage ." But the issues such couples struggle with... Read more
Erotic Intelligence
Reconciling Sensuality and DomesticityMany therapists fail to recognize that sexual desire doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. By counseling political correctness in the bedroom... Read more
Bad Couples Therapy
Getting Past the Myth of Therapist NeutralityHere are the mistakes both beginning and experienced couples therapists commit, and how you can avoid them. Read more
The Awful Truth
Most Men Are Just Not Raised to be IntimateAfter the publication of my book, 'I Don't Want to Talk about It,' I started getting calls from people around the United States who wanted help. Naming the... Read more
The Untold Story: An Interview with Carol Gilligan
Carol Gilligan on recapturing the lost voice of pleasureIn her new book, The Birth of Pleasure, Carol Gilligan has tried to probe the root of what makes intimate partnership between men and women so difficult. What... Read more
In the Bedroom
Countering the destructive effects of trauma on intimacyA book review of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors: Strengthening Attachment Bonds by Susan M. Johnson Read more
Beeper in the Bedroom
Technology has become a therapeutic issueAs the digital revolution permeates and alters our lives, therapists are increasingly called upon to become the guides to a balance between the allure of... Read more
Tantra at Home
Modern Tantric techniques to improve anyone's sex lifeFrom the March/April 1999 issue Heighten Awareness of All the Senses William Masters and Virginia Johnson introduced to the West a technique called... Read more
A jazz drummer tunes in to how a couple organizes time Read more
I Gave at the Office
Men and the Romance of WorkWhat draws so many men to define their manhood through work success, and how can therapists help men--and the women in their lives--understand what they get... Read more
Turning Down the Temperature
Handling one of marriage's most explosive crisesHow to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. Read more
Every day, warring and desperate husbands and wives show up in our offices agonizing over divorce. Have we been too blithe in encouraging them to go ahead, too... Read more
Some intriguing findings refute popular myths about marriage. Read more
Some African-American couples wrestle with stereotypes to the bitter end. Read more