Abuse
Saving No-Fault Divorce
What's at Stake for Women in Abusive Marriages?The current political push to eliminate no-fault divorce is dangerous, particularly for women in abusive relationships. Read more
Facing Post-Separation Abuse
Sometimes the Breakup Isn't the EndPost-separation abuse can easily masquerade as a simple "bad breakup." Read more
Living with Narcissistic Abuse
How to Heal When Leaving Isn’t an OptionMaintaining a sense of well-being with a narcissist requires clarity, clear expectations, and self-compassion. Read more
When Your Client Goes to Family Court
The Truth about Documenting SessionsHow you document sessions with clients in emotionally abusive relationships can either help or harm them in family court. Read more
Male Abuse Survivors
Bringing a Fuller Picture of Suffering to LightWhy aren't we doing more to support male survivors of intimate partner violence? Read more
Assessing the Physical Dangers of Emotional Abuse
When to Create a Safety PlanJust because a relationship isn't physically violent doesn't mean emotional abuse won't turn violent. Read more
Healing the Covert Narcissist
When Early Trauma Meets EntitlementEntitlement, the characteristic that best indicates when coercive control is narcissistically driven, makes treating perpetrators challenging—but not... Read more
Parenting with a Coercive Controller
Repairing Attachment When Children Get WeaponizedThe arrival of children in a coercively controlling relationship adds a complicated abuse accelerant. Read more
Editor's Note: November/December 2024
Facing the Realities of Emotional AbuseThe more informed we are about narcissistic abuse and coercive control, the more we can support survivors of intimate partner violence on their road to healing. Read more
Black Women and Intimate Partner Violence
When Seeking Help Isn’t SafeSeeking protection from a violent relationship is difficult enough on its own, but for Black women, the problem is compounded many times over. Read more
The Hidden Trauma of Childhood Neglect
What to Make of Too Much of NothingThe way neglect can shape a child’s brain is often misunderstood. Read more
How to Know It's Narcissistic Abuse
Signs to Watch for in TherapyWatch this clip of Dr. Ramani explaining the signs of narcissistic abuse in a relationship and what it looks like in your therapy office. Read more
Building Rapport with Victims of Narcissistic Abuse
Don't Shame Your ClientsWatch this clip of Dr. Ramani explaining how to help your clients who are survivors of narcissistic and build trust. Read more
What is Betrayal Blindness?
Dr. Ramani on Survivors of Narcissistic AbuseWatch this clip of Dr. Ramani explaining what betrayal blindness looks like in relationships impacted by narcissistic abuse. Read more
Uncovering Intimate Partner Violence
When Does Relationship Conflict Tip into Abuse?Intimate partner violence isn’t as obvious to therapists as cultural stereotypes suggest—and even when it’s revealed, the path forward isn’t always... Read more
Is It Ever Okay to Break Confidentiality If I Know My Client Is Dating an Abuser?
Five Clinicians Give Their TakeDiedre was widowed about three years ago, but was excited to tell her therapist about a man she's started dating. She's very happy. As her therapist heard... Read more
When Straight Men Have Sex with Men
Understanding the Difference Between Sexual Identity, Preference, and FantasyWhen a male client in a heterosexual relationship confesses that he has sex with men, the therapist must understand he's not necessarily closeted. Read more
Therapy in the Danger Zone
Breaking the Cycle of Family TraumaThere's no more emotionally demanding work than that with an incestuous family. A therapist offers an uncensored look at the fear, loathing, and fascination of... Read more
The Trauma Myth
Understanding the True Dynamics of Sexual AbuseTwenty-five years ago, it was considered a great advance when therapists first began to approach childhood abuse as a form of trauma. Now new research suggests... Read more
Addicted to Sex
There are no shortcuts in treating SAEffective work with sex addicts must address deep-seated attachment wounds. Commentary by Joe Kort. Read more