VIDEO: Susan Johnson on Attachment Issues in the Bedroom

How to Help Couples Have "Hold Me Tight" Conversations

When couples leave the consulting room, what keeps them from falling back into the destructive, deep-seated behavioral patterns that brought them there in the first place? In other words, how do in-session breakthroughs become daily habits? “People will take out of the therapy session things that are emotionally meaningful to them,” says couples therapist and Networker Symposium Keynote speaker Susan Johnson, author of Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships.

In a brief video, Susan explains how to create moments of emotional sharing so deep that they automatically translate into couples’ lives. This technique helps couples open up about the blocks that have kept them apart and become comfortable with the power of emotion.

Here’s a clip to get you started.

 

Rich Simon

Richard Simon, PhD, founded Psychotherapy Networker and served as the editor for more than 40 years. He received every major magazine industry honor, including the National Magazine Award. Rich passed away November 2020, and we honor his memory and contributions to the field every day.

Susan Johnson

Dr. Sue Johnson was the primary developer of Emotionally Focused Couples and Family Therapy (EFT), which has demonstrated its effectiveness in more than 30 years of peer-reviewed clinical research. Her books include Attachment Theory in Practice: EFT with Individuals, Couples and Families (2019) The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy: Creating Connection (3rd edition, 2019) and Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors (2002). Read our tribute to Sue and learn more about your legacy on her website.