Couples

Conventional therapeutic wisdom aside, people typically don’t hurt each other because they’re out of touch, unable to communicate, or can’t help... Read more

Do you want to be right or be married? Okay, now pause, think, breathe . . . and choose between First Consciousness and Second Consciousness. Read more

At least 30 percent of couples coming to therapy have fundamentally different agendas about whether to try to save the marriage. If we’re ever going to... Read more

The times and tides of 33 years of marriage Read more

While meditation is usually considered solitary, two therapists discover that the couples intervention they’ve been using for over 20 years is actually a... Read more

In these tough economic times, how do therapists distinguish between money troubles related to the recession and those that have psychological roots? Read more

Neil Clark Warren, the founder of the successful matchmaking site eHarmony, talks about what’s necessary to find a good, compatible match. Read more

In every love relationship, there are words that best remain unspoken. Read more

A cyber relationship revives a marriage in the doldrums. Read more

While partners caught in the anger merry-go-round invariably blame the other, both typically pass the anger back and forth like a shared virus. Read more

Whether we like it or not, today's couples feel far less encumbered by the legal, social, and moral strictures of traditional marriage and its obligations... Read more

My Parisian colleague was shocked to learn that American therapists typically encourage couples not only to confess their affairs, but also to share the... Read more

As therapists, we have an unquenchable desire to find happy ending for troubled clients, especially those weathering the crisis of infidelity. But what happens... Read more

Mindfulness offers tools for navigating the stormy seas of a troubled relationship. Read more

Let's face it: love means something quite different to men and women. A look at other species of social mammals offers some remarkable insights into the... Read more

It's one thing to make change happen in a couples session; it's quick another to make those changes tick over time. Read more

Open porn use introduces a relational question that most couples never face: how to live with the knowledge that your partner's erotic fantasy-world often... Read more

Whether they know it or not, what most people are looking for in sex therapy isn't so much a change in specific behaviors as a way of developing a more... Read more

What do issues of fairness and relational justice have to do with psychotherapy? Read more

Given that most couples never manage to change each other very much, teaching them to forgive each other's imperfections is a vastly underutilized therapeutic... Read more

Too often couples make contrasts in temperament into negative stories about how their partner won't change. Could it just be that every couple is The Odd... Read more

Improvisational theater offers a unique way of approaching relationships—and psychotherapy—that's generous rather than closed, support rather than... Read more

Many therapists assume that if they help couples improve their relationships, the improvement will naturally lead to a rewarding erotic life. But what if... Read more

Prenuptials may seem unromantic and focused on worst-case scenarios, but they can clarify critical issues and avoid problems down the road. Read more

Despite marketing blitz, Viagra hasn't turned out to be the neat remedy for erectile dysfunction for men over 50 that was promised. Can therapists offer aging... Read more

While the death of a marriage is undoubtedly painful, it doesn't have to be pathological. Buddhism can offer the concrete guidance to help even the most... Read more

Making "contact" with our partner means first recognizing a subtle inner substrate where we encounter everything from boredom to anxiety to sexual interest to... Read more

The phrase "in sickness and in health" is a hallowed part of our marriage vows for good reason. As human beings vulnerable to a wide variety of diseases and... Read more

EMDR helps a young Irag War vet and his wife emerge from the nightmare of his war experience. Read more

Esther Perel explains why new parents need to prioritize their sex lives instead of leaving at the bottom of the to-do list. Read more