Family

Family Matters January 3, 2024

Wrestling with a Daughter's Faith

An Agnostic Mother Learns the Challenge of True Acceptance

A family with stark religious differences finds its way. Read more

The Tech-Free Vacation

A Family's Search for Lost Connection

Is there anything trickier for modern-day parents than separating a 13-year-old from an iPhone, even if it’s just for a few days? Read more

Senior writer/editor Alicia Muñoz talks with author, therapist, and Instagram influencer Nedra Glover Tawwab about boundaries and maintaining drama-free... Read more

Family Matters January 4, 2023

Far From Home

An Immigrant’s Search for Belonging
Sarah Jin

"Gohyang" is a Korean word that means "hometown" but translates to so much more. Read more

How remarried families can reexamine their roles. Read more

Family Matters November 30, 2022

Love Scrabble

An Evening with My Wife's Boyfriend

Playing a traditional boardgame in a nontraditional romantic arrangement. Read more

Family Matters October 10, 2022

Sweet Surrender

Ice Cream, Fatherhood, and the Meaning of Life

A tale about fatherhood and the pleasures of ice cream. Read more

Laughing with Big Mama

How to Discover the Wise Guide Within You

A grandmother’s indelible spirit inspires a therapy practice. Read more

Our Aging Families

Encouraging New Conversations between Parents and Adult Children

A fundamental change has been percolating in how adult children and their aging parents interact. Read more

Creating the Good Divorce

Tools of the Trade

The fundamental goal of a good divorce is simple yet challenging: children must experience their parents as a working partnership that reliably nurtures and... Read more

Shattered by Suicide

Helping Families in the Aftermath

Suicide isn't simply the tragedy of someone taking their own life: it's also the long, excruciating nightmare of being left behind. Read more

Family Matters May 22, 2022

Whose Mom Is It Anyway?

Learning to Love My Mother’s Caregiver

A daughter’s resentment gives way to a lesson in unconditional love. Read more

Family Matters March 22, 2022

The Diary Keeper

A Father Discovers What Matters Most

As time rushes forward, a diary promises the chance to slow things down. Read more

Family Matters January 7, 2022

Four Simple Ingredients

Lessons on Baking with Matthew

Four simple ingredients will become bread, whether you do everything right or not. The result may not be perfect, but it doesn’t have to be. Read more

Mediating Estrangement

How to Help Family Members Coexist

After journeying through the Family Dialogue process, estranged family members often end up adjusting the very notion of what togetherness means. Read more

Estrangement 101

Helping Parents Reengage Their Kids

Helping parents process their own childhood pain is a difficult but necessary part of helping them reconnect with an estranged child. Read more

When Adult Siblings Struggle

Three Steps Toward Repair

The session was supposed to be a consultation between two middle-aged sisters—my client, Annie, and her sister, Carol—about sharing their multigenerational... Read more

When Therapists Encourage Family Cutoffs

Are We Helping or Harming?

Today’s culture of therapy both reflects and contributes to our nation’s ever-growing embrace of individualism—for better and, sometimes, for worse. Read more

How have we come to a place where fully a quarter of Americans aren’t merely disgruntled with family members, but are distressed enough to actually cut them... Read more

Family Matters November 11, 2021

Moving in Synchrony

The Collective Tug of Family

Sometimes the road to connection involves a painful separation. Read more

Borrowed Tears

A Therapist Reclaims His Buried Past—and Upends His Practice

When a therapist finally confronts his tendency to dissociate, his work takes a life-changing turn. Read more

Family Matters May 19, 2021

Relearning Parenthood

When Children Reach Adulthood, What Then?

When our kids no longer need us to be problem solvers, what do we become? Read more

Families Under Pressure

Helping Relieve Today’s Parents & Kids

The pandemic has created an emotional petri dish for kids and parents who are stuck in place, terribly stressed, and feeling alone. How are families supposed... Read more

Bridging the Gap

School–Therapy Collaboration in Trying Times

Although it’s never been easy to take oh-so-familiar systems principles and put them to work in real life, the devastating sweep of the pandemic has made... Read more

A Turning Point for Caregivers

Discussing the Hidden Impacts of the Pandemic

Our current caregiving crisis is a societal failure, not the result of one family’s shortcomings. Read more

The Mentor Who Changed My Therapy Practice

…And How Two Little Words Changed Everything

Most clinicians need a mentor: someone who takes them under their wing and inspires them to be a better therapist. The five clinicians whose stories you’re... Read more

Finding the Balance

How to Meet Stress with Tenderness during COVID-19

During the pandemic, our clients’ relationships need special attention and nurturing. Sometimes that means helping them recalibrate what they can hold for... Read more

Open Book June 30, 2020

A Family in Chaos

A Study of Dysfunction and Resilience

The story of the Gavins—a family of 12 children, six of whom suffered from schizophrenia—sheds new light on the nature vs. nurture debate. Read more

Some Days Are Too Much

A Therapist Gets Real about Families Struggling to Cope in Quarantine

Some clients in quarantine with their families report a constant feeling of being out of control. That danger lurks around the corner of every family... Read more

My name is Anita Mathilda Abram Mandley. That’s me peeking out from the lower left-hand corner of the picture. I’m with my great grandfather, great-great... Read more