Contributed by Harriet Lerner
Listening as the Ultimate Spiritual Act
From Passive Process to Active PracticeHow do we change our habit of defensive listening and make emotional presence our practice? Read more
How remarried families can reexamine their roles. Read more
Do I Have to Forgive You?
Loosening the Grip of Obsessive Anger and PainThe hardest part of letting go of anger can be accepting that the offending party is never going to apologize, never going to see themselves objectively, and... Read more
Healing the Mother–Daughter Connection
When "I'm Sorry" is Just the First StepCertain apologies are so courageous that the very word apology seems too glib. Letty’s story is one that falls on the heroic end of the apology spectrum. I... Read more
What It Really Means to Apologize
…While Holding Wrongdoers AccountableWe’re all imperfect human beings, so the need to give and receive apologies is with us until our very last breath. Yet there’s no greater challenge than... Read more
An Apple Seed and Trained Monkeys
Growing Up Under the Influence of My Big Sister's ImaginationWhether as playmate, protector, or tormentor, a big sister looms large in the imagination of her younger sibling. Read more
The Challenge of the Healing Apology
Highlights from Symposium 2018At this cultural moment of the #MeToo movement, which has heightened awareness of a broad range of transgressions, psychologist and bestselling author Harriet... Read more
The Power of Apologizing
What It Takes to Really Be SorryUnlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to... Read more
Apologizing Under Fire
How to Handle Big-Time CriticismIt’s difficult enough to offer an apology when we see the need for it and believe it’s the right thing to do. It’s far more difficult when we’re... Read more
Whatever Became of Feminism?
Harriet Lerner on the Legacy of the Women's MovementPsychologist and bestselling author Harriet Lerner speaks about her body of work and addresses the question of the continuing impact of feminism on... Read more
Harriet Lerner
Harriet Lerner is one of the most respected voices on the psychology of women and marriage and family relationships. For more than three decades, she was a staff psychologist and psychotherapist at The Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kansas, and a faculty member and supervisor in the Karl Menninger School of Psychiatry. Currently in private practice in Lawrence, Kansas, she is the author of numerous scholarly articles and 12 books, including the New York Times best-seller, The Dance of Anger, and Why Won’t You Apologize: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts.