What to Do When You Have a Tricky, Sticky, Picky Brain
OCD is a trickster – but kids don’t have to play by its rules. What do you do when your child has a “tricky, sticky, picky” brain? The... Read more
Overcoming Self-Abandonment
You’ve been everything to everyone. You hustle, overdeliver, say yes when you mean no, and carry the emotional weight of everyone around you... Read more
Solutions to Everything
This essay offers 38 radical life solutions on truth, work, love, politics, and spirit—all urging you to stop running and be the solution. Read more
Bringing Up Father
How My Children Taught Me the Secret of FatherhoodWhen author Frank Pittman became a father, he discovered that the childhood absence of his own father left him with no idea how to relate to his kids. This... Read more
Turning Down the Temperature
Handling one of marriage's most explosive crisesHow to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. Read more
Swallowed Alive
Not surprisingly, almost nothing makes children, including adolescents, feel as insecure and adrift as parents who also feel insecure and adrift, tossed by... Read more
Long-Distance Therapy
Helping an isolated family heal their traumaFrom the May/June 1994 issue IN THE SPRING OF 1991, MY MOTHER, A MENNONITE AND a nurse-midwife, called me from rural Pennsylvania. “Can you give... Read more
Friendship with a Price Tag?
What does account for a goodly chunk of the positive change that clients experience from therapy, the outcome research shows, is the time-honored therapeutic... Read more
Emerging from the Shadows
Looking Beyond the Borderline DiagnosisIn the minds of many therapists, the borderline diagnosis has come to be a code word for trouble. To get past our sense of helplessness with these clients, we... Read more
Zen and the Art of Therapy
Family therapist Jay Haley explores the influences of Zen on Western therapy, particularly in relation to the strategic, or directive, approach best... Read more
Becoming Brothers
We cannot get through. My father, brother and I huddle in the hall. Arthur says, "It's up to Dad." Dad blinks in pain, his hazel eyes filmy behind his... Read more
A Window on the World
From the March/April 1994 issue We have grown used to having front-row seats during natural and political cataclysms like the Los Angeles... Read more
Manners Matter
Respecting the etiquette of effective psychotherapyFrom the July/August 1997 issue Whenever I talk about my belief in the link between etiquette and successful psychotherapy, people exclaim “Manners?... Read more
The Mighty Wedge of Class
From the July/August 1994 issue ON A SATURDAY EVENING LATE ONE MAY A FEW YEARS AGO, I stood outside a recently opened restaurant and watched as cars... Read more
More than Love
The Parents of Adolescents Go Through Their Own Tumultuous PassageFor parents who are chronically pressed for time and feel increasingly impotent in the face of the perils that litter their teen's lives, backing off from... Read more
A Primer on Death
In our technological society, real death is hidden away while fantasized deaths are available for viewing in dizzying numbers. It's time to separate our... Read more