Many couples in therapy complain that their sex life has dried up. But according to Susan Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), the lack of sex isn’t the real problem between these couples—it's the lack of emotional connection, mutual understanding, and a sense of security.
In this video clip with Networker Editor Rich Simon, Johnson makes the case for addressing attachment issues that make a relationship feel unsafe before delving into the couple's sex life. "Couples who open up emotionally," she says, "start to open up physically to each other, too." Address the emotion, she explains, "and their sex is going to start to improve.”
Johnson has spent decades developing techniques that go directly to the heart of couples’ problems in order to naturally heal all areas of the relationship. No issue is isolated—sexual problems aren’t confined to the bedroom, small arguments are implicitly about much more, and negative attachment patterns can permeate every facet of the relationship.