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A Complete Life
From an Evening of Storytelling 2018A specialist in grief and dying gets an early lesson on what makes up a full life. Read more
Karaoke on Five South
From an Evening of Storytelling 2018A karaoke performance on a psych ward helps a mother and daughter find a way to reconnect. Read more
How to give boys more choices about the kind of men they want to be. Read more
The Retiring Rebel
Rethinking the Way We Help Clients Face the Midlife CrisisRather than thinking of midlife as an emotional unraveling, I believe it’s more helpful to reframe this stage of life in our early 50s and 60s as “second... Read more
Jump-Starting Conversation in Family Therapy
The Difference Between Guiding and InterveningHow do you get family members to talk together productively? Enactments can be among the most valuable tools for getting a family's communication going. But... Read more
Six Ways to Find Comedy in Even the Darkest Moments
Shaking Your Clients Loose from Their Tragic StancesTherapy, in order to shake people loose from their tragic stances and bounce them into the human comedy, is at its best when it is funny, when the tragic... Read more
Therapists Talk Gun Violence
Brainstorming Ways to Make a DifferenceAs an estimated half-a-million protestors poured into downtown Washington, DC for the March for Our Lives, therapists who were in town for their field’s... Read more
Family Therapy as We Know It Needs to Change
To Reach Troubled Adolescents, Look to the "Second Family"Editor’s Note: This article this blog is taken from originally appeared in the March/April 1996 issue of Psychotherapy Networker. When his family was... Read more
VIDEO: Tara Brach on Awakening from the Cybertrance
Dealing with the Challenges to Mindfulness in a Digital WorldIt should come as no surprise that, in our culture, immersion in cyber activities far outpace the interest in mindfulness. But how do you deal with the... Read more
When Money Comes Up in Therapy
Two Ways to Make Your Fee Policies Clear and Easy to Talk AboutMost therapists were never coached about how to reconcile the closeness of the therapeutic encounter with the fact that therapy is also a business. Read more
Increasingly, therapists are becoming important players in a new era of more conscious aging, as more people make their way to our offices with issues related... Read more
A New Stretch of the River
Navigating Life’s Final StagesAs we age, our bodies and relationships change, and the pace of change accelerates. At 70, we’re unlikely to be able to function as we did in our 50s. We... Read more
Occupational Wisdom
What Therapists Can Teach Us about Growing Old GracefullyDoes being a therapist give us an edge in coping with the inescapable phenomenon of aging? Three prominent psychotherapists—Irvin Yalom, Joan Klagsbrun, and... Read more
The Power of Apologizing
What It Takes to Really Be SorryUnlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to... Read more
A push to make mindfulness practices more racially sensitive. Read more
Priming Clients for Taking New Practices Home
Four Keys to Enhancing EngagementFour steps to help clients take new practices learned in the consulting room back into their everyday lives. Read more
Second Adolescence
An Alternative to the Midlife CrisisInstead of viewing midlife as a time of emotional unraveling, therapists can see it as an opportunity to help clients gain a fuller sense of purpose in... Read more
Art and Trauma
Accessing Creative Paths to HealingA leader in expressive arts therapy explains why it’s increasingly being used to help combat vets find relief from trauma. Read more
Life After Extremism
What It Takes to Renounce HateReview: Healing from Hate: How Young Men Get Into—and Out of—Violent ExtremismA look at how to help former skinheads, neo-Nazis, white supremacists, and... Read more
Living Backward and Forward
In Search of the Stories that Bind UsIn search of the stories that can bind a family together. Read more
How To Stop Couples Conflict Before It Even Starts
...And the Five Life Factors That Contribute to Intensifying Anger ArousalTherapy often involves entirely too much talking about new skills the client should put into place, but not enough rehearsing. Just as exposure training... Read more
VIDEO: What Infidelity Looks Like
All Types of Cheating Have This in CommonOf course, sexual affairs are red flags for infidelity, but there are common elements that make any outside relationship an infidelity. Sex therapist Tammy... Read more
VIDEO: Tony Robbins on “The Art of Fulfillment”
Being Content Doesn’t Have to Mean Choosing Happiness Over SuccessThe bad news? We all have a two-million-year-old brain that keeps us constantly anxious and self-critical. The good news? It doesn’t have to define who we... Read more
#MeTooManyTimes
How the Latest Movement Against Sexual Predation is Rattling Some Therapy ClientsMany therapists who specialize in sexual abuse and trauma are reporting that the #MeToo movement and the ongoing accusations of sexual assault and harassment... Read more
Facing a Parent's Decline
Helping Grown Children and Aging Parents Learn to Nurture Each OtherNearly all therapists will soon be working with substantial numbers of aging families, whether or not they ever consciously choose to. The question at hand... Read more
Making Space for Race
Creating and Holding Connection with Black TeenagersTherapy with teenagers has to be about creating and holding a connection. As a therapist, I'm like a spider trying to lure my clients into a web that will... Read more
What's In a Kiss?
Helping Couples Decode the Language of Their SexualityOver the years, I've worked with many couples who complain bitterly that the other kisses or touches, fondles, caresses, strokes the "wrong" way. These couples... Read more
VIDEO: How to Think Scientifically about Medications
Why Having a Hypothesis Works for the Non-Medical TherapistDespite the increasing popularity of psychiatric meds as the go-to remedy for everything from seasonal depression to social anxiety, drugs are often not the... Read more
How to Get Clients to Do Their Homework
Step 1: Don't Call It "Homework"The best way to ensure clients' cooperation is to make the assignments relevant for them. Task assignments are designed to bring about changes in the... Read more