The Heart of an Affair

A Conversation with Bill Doherty

Bill Doherty talks with Networker on how to help clients get clarity around the ethical dimensions of secret affairs and the dilemmas that often show up in... Read more

Getting at the Heart of Affairs

How to Help Clients Examine Ethical Dilemmas

A seasoned therapist discusses the ethics around consulting with couples impacted by infidelity. Read more

After the Affair

Two Case Studies Illustrate the Opportunities Moving Forward

This article first appeared in the May/June 1989 issue. Back in the 1950s, Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher, Hollywood’s perfect young couple, shocked... Read more

Finding the Path Back

Couples Therapy After an Affair

Editor’s Note: This blog is excerpted from a piece that originally appeared in our September/October 1994 issue, Parents Under Siege. Do you think its... Read more

Clinician's Quandary February 5, 2019

Mark and his wife, Nicole, have been in couples therapy for almost six months. But Mark recently requested an individual session, where he revealed he recently... Read more

VIDEO: What Infidelity Looks Like

All Types of Cheating Have This in Common

Of course, sexual affairs are red flags for infidelity, but there are common elements that make any outside relationship an infidelity. Sex therapist Tammy... Read more

VIDEO: Helen Fisher on the Truth about Adultery's Scientific Advisor Weighs In

In a world of new and emerging norms about commitment, intimacy, the right to personal happiness, and open relationships are there also new patterns? Has the... Read more

The Liberating Power of Honesty

What People Don't Know Can Hurt Them. What They Don't Reveal Can Hurt Even More

When we therapists believe a secret's revelations would be dangerous, the client receives a frightening message about him- or herself and about the world. We... Read more

Affair Repair

Lessons on Changing Directions

Couples therapy can be difficult and dicey, especially when there’s an affair in the mix. To keep afloat in the emotional tumult, most therapists cling to... Read more

What’s the true nature of your feelings for your lover? An honest answer to that question is what a therapist needs in order to help a couple decide how to... Read more

Case Study March 1, 2013

Sex, Lies, and the Long Road Back

Recovering from an Extramarital Affair

Healing from an extramarital affair is rarely a simple process, especially when embarrassing sexual secrets and incompatibilities are exposed. Read more

Foreign Affairs

Infidelity Has Different Meanings In Different Cultures

My Parisian colleague was shocked to learn that American therapists typically encourage couples not only to confess their affairs, but also to share the... Read more

After the Storm

The Affair In Retrospect

As therapists, we have an unquenchable desire to find happy ending for troubled clients, especially those weathering the crisis of infidelity. But what happens... Read more

Case Study May 1, 1997

Hot Chat

Virtual affairs can become very real emotionally
Linda S. Freedman

From the May/June 1997 issue The Internet has entered the consulting room in ways that few therapists could possibly have anticipated. Today, Internet... Read more

Case Study September 1, 1994

Turning Down the Temperature

Handling one of marriage's most explosive crises

How to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. Read more