Infidelity
The Heart of an Affair
A Conversation with Bill DohertyBill Doherty talks with Networker on how to help clients get clarity around the ethical dimensions of secret affairs and the dilemmas that often show up in... Read more
Getting at the Heart of Affairs
How to Help Clients Examine Ethical DilemmasA seasoned therapist discusses the ethics around consulting with couples impacted by infidelity. Read more
After the Affair
Two Case Studies Illustrate the Opportunities Moving ForwardThis article first appeared in the May/June 1989 issue. Back in the 1950s, Debbie Reynolds and Eddie Fisher, Hollywood’s perfect young couple, shocked... Read more
Finding the Path Back
Couples Therapy After an AffairEditor’s Note: This blog is excerpted from a piece that originally appeared in our September/October 1994 issue, Parents Under Siege. Do you think its... Read more
Should I Keep One Partner’s Secret in Couples Therapy?
Five Clinicians Give Their TakeMark and his wife, Nicole, have been in couples therapy for almost six months. But Mark recently requested an individual session, where he revealed he recently... Read more
VIDEO: What Infidelity Looks Like
All Types of Cheating Have This in CommonOf course, sexual affairs are red flags for infidelity, but there are common elements that make any outside relationship an infidelity. Sex therapist Tammy... Read more
VIDEO: Helen Fisher on the Truth about Adultery
Match.com's Scientific Advisor Weighs InIn a world of new and emerging norms about commitment, intimacy, the right to personal happiness, and open relationships are there also new patterns? Has the... Read more
The Liberating Power of Honesty
What People Don't Know Can Hurt Them. What They Don't Reveal Can Hurt Even MoreWhen we therapists believe a secret's revelations would be dangerous, the client receives a frightening message about him- or herself and about the world. We... Read more
Affair Repair
Lessons on Changing DirectionsCouples therapy can be difficult and dicey, especially when there’s an affair in the mix. To keep afloat in the emotional tumult, most therapists cling to... Read more
VIDEO: After Infidelity: Focus on the Feelings, Not the Facts
How Understanding the Desires HelpsWhat’s the true nature of your feelings for your lover? An honest answer to that question is what a therapist needs in order to help a couple decide how to... Read more
Sex, Lies, and the Long Road Back
Recovering from an Extramarital AffairHealing from an extramarital affair is rarely a simple process, especially when embarrassing sexual secrets and incompatibilities are exposed. Read more
Foreign Affairs
Infidelity Has Different Meanings In Different CulturesMy Parisian colleague was shocked to learn that American therapists typically encourage couples not only to confess their affairs, but also to share the... Read more
After the Storm
The Affair In RetrospectAs therapists, we have an unquenchable desire to find happy ending for troubled clients, especially those weathering the crisis of infidelity. But what happens... Read more
Turning Down the Temperature
Handling one of marriage's most explosive crisesHow to cool down the temperature with couples facing the crisis of infidelity. Read more