First Person
Creative personal essays on life and family
Coming Out As Plural
Setting the Record Straight on DissociationWe all dissociate in some way to cope with the uncertainties of life, so why are people with dissociative identities often feared and misunderstood, even by... Read more
Therapist, Your Pain Matters Too
Battling Burnout with BoundariesWhen mental health professionals compare their problems to that of their clients, they risk falling into the trappings of comparative suffering and missing the... Read more
Hunting for Harry
Can a Lost Marriage Be Retrieved?When losing your spouse in a bookstore helps you find perspective. Read more
Dating Again in Your 70s
A Couples Therapist Joins Match.comEven when you've spent your entire career teaching people how to have relationships, finding love is still a risky, humbling, and unpredictable... Read more
Drowning in Debris
A Daughter Faces Her Mother’s HoardingWhen a hoarding mother won’t face her illness, what choice does a daughter have? Read more
A Therapist Takes Ketamine
A Firsthand Account of a New Kind of Healing JourneyAfter this experience, I knew I needed to share what I’d learned with my clients, and soon afterward decided to get training to become a ketamine-assisted... Read more
Far From Home
An Immigrant’s Search for Belonging"Gohyang" is a Korean word that means "hometown" but translates to so much more. Read more
Love Scrabble
An Evening with My Wife's BoyfriendPlaying a traditional boardgame in a nontraditional romantic arrangement. Read more
The Couple Who Changed Me
Help Can Come from Unexpected SourcesThe strongest couples are the ones who are open to help—the ones who can surround themselves with allies, inviting others into the trenches with them. Read more
A Script for Male Dementia Caregivers
Helping a Husband Be More Than a 'Pillar of Strength'Many spousal dementia caregivers struggle emotionally watching their life partners slowly decline. But I also knew that male caregivers, especially spouses... Read more