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An Attachment-Based Approach with Couples

Harnessing Emotion in Couples Work

Susan Johnson

When a couple leaves the consulting room, what keeps them from falling back into the destructive, deep-seated behavioral patterns that brought them there in the first place? In other words, how do in-session breakthroughs become daily habits?

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The Power of Mental Rehearsal

Learning to Strengthen Brain Circuits

Brent Atkinson

In his recent Networker article “The Great Deception,” psychologist Brent Atkinson, author of Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy: Advances from Neurobiology and the Science of Intimate Relationships, explains the power of mental rehearsal and what this means for your clients.

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Removing The Masks

Let’s Stop Wasting Time

David Schnarch

Conventional therapeutic wisdom aside, people typically don’t hurt each other because they’re out of touch, unable to communicate, or can’t help themselves. All too frequently, they do hurtful things with impunity and entitlement simply to gratify their own needs.

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Complexity Choir

The eight domains of self-integration

Dan Siegel

Over the last twenty years, I've come to believe that integration is the key mechanism beneath both the absence of illness and the presence of well-being. Integration---the linkage of differentiated elements of a system---illuminates a direct pathway toward health. It's the way we avoid a life of dull, boring rigidity on the one hand, or explosive chaos on the other. The key to this transformation is cultivating the capacity for mindsight.

 

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After the Storm

The Affair in Retrospect

Esther Perel

For several years, I've been contacting couples I've treated to find out more about the long-term impact of the infidelity that brought them to therapy. With those couples who've remained together in the intervening years, I offered a free, follow-up interview to discuss how they regard the infidelity retrospectively, and how they integrated the experience into the ongoing narrative of their relationship. Specificities notwithstanding, I identified three basic patterns in the way couples reorganize themselves after an infidelity---they never really get past the affair, they pull themselves up by the bootstraps and let it go, or they leave it far behind.

 

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Letting the Body Lead

Ann Randolph on Truly Embodied Emotion

Rich Simon

Much of therapy taps into emotions through words—talking through behavioral and emotional problems, recounting past events, or discussing aspirations. But for some clients, talking and thinking too much about their problems is a problem in and of itself.

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Psychotherapy as Experiential Drama

Jeffrey Zeig on Bridging the Gap between Knowing and Realizing

Rich Simon

In our own lives and in our work with clients, we often find that simply knowing what we need to do isn’t enough.

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Making Creativity in the Consulting Room Productive

Steve Andreas on the Clinical Mastery of Virginia Satir

Rich Simon

What does inventive therapy look like? We often overlook that for all skilled therapists, there are well-established patterns and techniques underlying even the most innovative decisions.

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Should You Have Leverage Over Your Clients?

Terry Real on Why Male Grandiosity Necessitates Leverage

Rich Simon

The idea of having leverage over a client in therapy seems like an unusual—and borderline unethical—practice. But according to relationship expert Terry Real, it's often necessary when working with male clients.

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Getting to the Heart of the Stuck Couple’s Story

Peggy Papp on Using Metaphor for New Insight, Fresh Language, and Forward Movement

Rich Simon

How can a therapist cut through a couples’ intellectualizations, defensiveness, and ritualized use of language?

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