We've gathered Psychotherapy Networkers most popular posts and arranged them here by topic.
A Couple on Brink of Divorce Finally Learns to Show Vulnerability
Silvina Irwin
By Silvina Irwin - It’s my first session with Jeff and Miranda. “Honestly, I don’t know why I’m here,” Miranda spits out. “He's cheated on me since we started dating 25 years ago." Can I avoid doing further damage to their precarious relationship? Do I tell Miranda to run for the hills? What if Miranda takes a leap of faith and decides to trust Jeff once more—and he betrays her yet again?
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The Behavior Patterns That Kill Romance, and How to Beat Them
Susan Johnson
Susan Johnson, the developer of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and a presenter at the
2019 Networker Symposium, has devoted her career to demonstrating that it’s not an oxymoron to speak of the "science of love."
Listen as she explains how attachment science can help couples discover a pathway to optimal lovemaking.
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John Gottman's Latest Research from the "Love Lab"
John Gottman
By John Gottman - What the latest research from my lab is telling us is that trust and commitment are both the key ingredients for being in love with your partner for a lifetime, and for having your marriage be a safe haven. These are the ingredients for not just loving your partner, but being in love with your partner.
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The Strength of a Relationship Depends on How Partners Respond to This One Question
Susan Johnson
By Susan Johnson - Marriages are primarily about the emotional responsiveness that we call love; about fundamental human attachment. The empirically supported model of therapy I've developed allows us to understand what happens at key moments of change and make these moments happen. This means that we can not only heal relationships: we can create relationships that heal.
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What Buddhism Can Teach Us About Partnership and Its Challenges
Polly Young-Eisendrath
By Polly Young-Eisendrath - In order to succeed at truly loving another, you must be able to check in with yourself and get a sense of how you are seeing, hearing, and feeling, so that you can come to recognize your own subjective picture or image or story of the other person and of your relationship.
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Five Clinicians Give Their Take
Psychotherapy Networker
Mark and his wife, Nicole, have been in couples therapy for almost six months. But Mark recently requested an individual session, where he revealed he recently shared a kiss with an old girlfriend and has plans to rekindle their friendship. He's asked his therapist to keep the whole thing a secret. Here's how five clinicians say they'd tackle the situation.
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Getting to the Root of Couples' Arguments about Finances
Sally Palaian
By Sally Palaian - These days, couples often come into therapy with problems related to their finances. Here's how to distinguish between money difficulties caused by the economy and those that are more psychological in nature.
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You Don't Need to Be an Expert to Help Clients Get "Dumb and Happy"
Lauren Dockett
Sex and relationship therapist Stephen Snyder talks with Psychotherapy Networker's Lauren Dockett about three simple things to do when you find yourself becoming a client's "accidental sex therapist."
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Framing Intimacy as a Regular Part of Life
Esther Perel
It's not always easy to get men to talk about intimacy and sex. But according to renowned sex therapist and author Esther Perel, there's a way to weave questions and observations about sexuality throughout your dialogue with reticent male clients that expands their understanding of its significance in all aspects of life.
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Divorced Couples Are Saying Something Important about Regret
William Doherty
By William Doherty - When I began my therapy practice, I was strictly neutral about divorce. It was the clients’ decision, not mine. But eventually, I was propelled out of my denial about the seriousness of divorce. We have a hundred ways to ask “What would be right for you?” and hardly any to ask “What would be right for others in your life?”
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