July/August 2015

Editor's Note

July/August 2015
At this moment in history, we seem to be in a divorce-busting mode, relatively speaking, and so fewer therapists are likely to tacitly encourage divorce as many of us once did. This shift certainly has the weight of traditional morality behind it and probably isn’t likely to begin swinging the other way again any time soon. But this issue of the Networker features some intrepid authors who explore, with an unusual degree of transparency, how difficult it can be to determine what’s in the best interests of clients on the brink of making perhaps the most momentous decision for which therapists regularly have a front-row seat. It’s intended as a reminder of how powerfully we can influence the process, all too often without acknowledging it, even if we don’t have the deciding vote.
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Reflections on the Divorce Revolution

Assessing Our Impact

July/August 2015
When it comes to helping couples considering divorce, therapists have a hundred ways to ask “What’s right for you?” but often find themselves tongue-tied when it comes to asking “What’s right for the others in your life?” Is it possible to talk about interpersonal responsibility without shaming clients and driving them away?
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Rowing to Nowhere

When is Enough Enough?

July/August 2015
We spend countless hours focused on how best to keep couples together, but rarely pay much attention to how to best help them split up. And we spend even less time examining how our own emotional reactions can influence their decision about whether to divorce.

The Intentional Divorce

Helping Couples Let Go with Dignity

July/August 2015
In today’s changing world, therapists need a new road map for helping couples end unions with their dignity intact, their sanity whole, and in a greater spirit of cooperation and good will.

Writing on Water

A Diary of Riding Out the Storm

July/August 2015
A therapist discovers what it means to be fully present, even in the face of the terrifying prospect of a declining mind.

Clinician's Digest

Therapists without Borders

July/August 2015
It’s the rare therapist who’s willing to leave the comforts of ordinary practice to face the hardships of working in the world’s most troubled places.
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In Consultation

When a Partner Has Alzheimer’s: Alternatives to Toughing it Out

July/August 2015
Helping the traditionalist generation care for their aging partners.

Case Study

The Challenge of Open Relationships: Can They Ever Work?

July/August 2015
While many therapists are skeptical of open relationships, some believe that, with the right couple, they can work.

Point of View

Personality and Habit Change: Are You an Upholder, Obliger, Questioner, or Rebel?

July/August 2015
In her first book, The Happiness Project, Gretchen Rubin tried to answer the question “How do I become happier?” With her new book on changing the habits of daily life, she answers the question “No, seriously, how do I become happier?”

Bookmarks

America’s Opportunity Chasm: A Noted Scholar Documents Our Decline in Social Mobility

July/August 2015
Robert Putnam documents the myriad psychological, health, and political consequences of the ever-growing disparities between rich and poor in America today.

Family Matters

We’ll Never Be Here Again: Stopping to Listen on a Late-life Passage

July/August 2015
A sexagenarian contemplates the sobering knowledge that she’s got “a tiny little future and a great big past.”
July/August 2015
Should This Marriage Be Saved?
Therapists and the Dilemma of Divorce