November/December 2011

Editor's Note

The Gritty, Hot-Blooded Work of Couples Therapy

November/December 2011
This issue’s contributors aren’t just convinced that therapists should do more couples therapy, but that risk-taking and turning up the heat in the therapy room is the key to having real therapeutic impact with couples.
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Facing Our Fears

Why We Avoid Doing Couples Therapy

November/December 2011

As neuroscience increasingly shows how wired we are to our intimate partners, an important question arises for therapists: Why do we primarily continue to see people individually who are grappling with serious problems in their relationships?

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Removing The Masks

Let’s Stop Wasting Time

November/December 2011

Conventional therapeutic wisdom aside, people typically don’t hurt each other because they’re out of touch, unable to communicate, or can’t help themselves. All too frequently, they do hurtful things with impunity and entitlement simply to gratify their own needs.

A Matter Of Choice

Deciding: to be Right or be Married?

November/December 2011

Do you want to be right or be married? Okay, now pause, think, breathe . . . and choose between First Consciousness and Second Consciousness.

In Or Out?

Treating the Mixed-Agenda Couple

November/December 2011

At least 30 percent of couples coming to therapy have fundamentally different agendas about whether to try to save the marriage. If we’re ever going to improve our success rates, we need to address that ambivalence from the moment they arrive in our offices.

Clinician's Digest

Trauma Below and Above Ground

November/December 2011
- Chilean miners' long-term trauma - Training good therapists - The question of bullying

In Consultation

From Estrangement to Engagement

November/December 2011
Helping Fathers and Daughters Connect

Case Study

The Five “A’s” of Transformation: The Enneagram as a Clinical Tool

November/December 2011
The Enneagram and the 5 A’s of transformation.

Point Of View

Our Potential for Good: Altruism as an Evolutionary Imperative

November/December 2011

Psychologist Darcher Keltner believes that underestimating our capacity for altruism does human nature a disservice.


The Heart of Darkness: Plumbing the Nature of Evil

November/December 2011

Plumbing the eternal question: Why are there bad people?

Family Matters

The Fundamental Things

November/December 2011
The times and tides of 33 years of marriage
November/December 2011
Who's Afraid of Couples Therapy?
Stretching your Comfort Zone