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Working with Difficult Men

Where’s the Leverage for Change?

July/August 2019
The conflict between an older, more traditional view of masculinity and a newer, more progressive one is the underlying issue in many marriages today. Helping these couples means violating many of the fundamental principles in the traditional therapy playbook.
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Piercing the Illusion of Intimacy

From Symposium Storytelling Evening 2019

May/June 2019
“Whoops,” I said, thinking this was a lighthearted moment. “Looks like you should’ve gone with that other psychologist.” But Ted didn’t joke back.

The Masculinity Paradox

What Does It Mean to Be a “Real” Man Today?

January/February 2019
The #MeToo movement has returned the field to many of the issues feminists raised decades ago. This time, however, there’s a new focus on avoiding us-versus-them thinking and exploring the great terra incognita of couples work—the inner world of men and their vulnerability. *Includes an interview with Esther Perel.

The "Millennial Effect"

How Young Clients Are Leading Therapists to New Places

November/December 2018
As they’re about to surpass baby boomers as the largest generation, millennials are coming to dominate the population of therapy consumers. But their impact goes beyond sheer numbers. With sometimes startling directness, they’re demanding that their therapists become even more “real” and disclosing, whether therapists are comfortable being that unguarded or not.
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Confessions of a Millennial Therapist

Finding My #Dreamjob

November/December 2018
After careful review of the usual stereotypes—technologically adroit, social media fixated, with a touch of narcissism—one 30-something therapist belatedly comes to a realization: she is, in fact, a millennial. And despite the negative connotations often attached to the label, that may not be such a bad thing after all.

Silent and Confused

Opening Conversations with Men in the Wake of #MeToo

May/June 2018
Most men publicly support #MeToo, but privately—very privately, often too privately even to share with their intimate partners—some are disoriented and wrestling with questions about the changing norms that shape their relationships with women. Meanwhile, therapists are examining how to bring issues raised by this movement more directly into their clinical approaches.

The Long Shadow of Patriarchy

Couples Therapy in the Age of Trump

September/October 2017
The election of Donald Trump and the resurgence of populism throughout the West were fueled by a renewed pull toward certain notions of traditional masculinity. Although therapists have remained largely silent about this revival of patriarchy in the culture, is neutrality really in the best interests of our clients?

Adjusting the Unconscious

Making Quick Work of Lasting Change

March/April 2017
Some claim that much of psychotherapy is a pseudoscience, promising far more than it can deliver, with lengthy, expensive interventions for the common problems clients present. What if we could quickly bring about lasting therapeutic change by modifying a few, simple unconscious processes?

The Mystery of Eroticism

January/February 2016
It’s long been the conventional wisdom among couples therapists that if couples fix the emotional issues in their relationship, their sexual lives will improve. However, good intimacy doesn’t guarantee good sex. Couples today are confronting a new frontier in the basic understanding of what marriage is all about. Since most of us grew up in sexual silence, therapists need to ask more probing questions when it comes to doing good couples therapy.
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Facing Our Dark Side

Some Forms of Self-Compassion Are Harder than Others

September/October 2015
Achieving a genuine state of self-compassion is a more challenging undertaking than many realize. Far from a little feel-better incantation you offer yourself when stressed, it’s a journey into multiple parts of yourself that may include the good, the bad, the ugly, the confused, the frightened, and the abandoned.
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