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How To Talk About Sex With Men

Esther Perel Shows How Easy It Can Be

A man’s sexuality is integral to everything he does, according to Esther Perel.

It’s reflected in how he lives, how he approaches his work and recreation, and how he meets—or dodges—challenges. In the consulting room, Esther simply mirrors that integration, introducing the subject of a man’s sexuality, his sexual practice, his approach to sex, and its place in his life in an effortless, organic way.

To watch this two and a half minute clip of Esther demonstrating how she does this is to learn from a master. And you can incorporate her insight and practical approach into your own work right away.

Click on the video below to watch, then let us know what you think.

Esther Perel, M.A., L.M.F.T., is a master trainer, therapist workshop leader and speaker, and an acknowledged international authority on couples, culture, and sexuality. The author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, she’s an AASECT-approved sex therapist practicing in New York where she’s on the faculty at Columbia University and the Ackerman Institute.

Esther is one of 6 leading experts featured in the relaunch of our streaming-video webcasts on Men and Intimacy. This 6-session series is filled with proven clinical approaches for working successfully with the men and couples in your practice, and it’s now offered in a new schedule and format:

Men and Intimacy: Overcoming “Commitment Phobia”
Watch All 6 Sessions When It’s
Best For You–On Demand, Any Time, Anywhere

Starts Monday, December 17th

Click here for full course details.

Want To Learn More? Here are some FREE Networker articles written by Esther Perel:
Erotic Intelligence: Reconciling Sensuality and Domesticity
After The Storm: The Affair In Retrospect

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3 Responses to How To Talk About Sex With Men

  1. joni Romeo says:

    The biggest problem I have with men (I run two groups for men) is that they are on psychotropic meds and have lost their libido or can’t perform as they once did. I encourage them to talk to the psychiatrist about taking drug holidays on weekends so that they can perform at least then. For the ones that can’t not take their meds, I encourage them to use patience and enjoy the other aspects of sex such as touch, smell, and cuddling and giving to their partner. Do you have any other suggestions.

  2. Saw Ms Perel last month at a workshop. She was wonderful…insightful and really thinks outside the box. States many of the obvious concepts with which our culture has issues, importance of fidelity in marriage; differing sexual appetites, what affairs may bring to the marriage.

  3. Participated in a workshop last month with Ms Perel. She was wonderful, insightful and thinks outside the box. Challenges our cultural beliefs about the level of importance of fidelity in marriage; what positives affairs may bring to a marriage, globally cultural differences about our beliefs surrounding marriage.

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