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At the Heart of Intimacy

Susan Johnson Shows How Couples Can Heal from the Inside Out

When a couple enters therapy to address sexual problems, are their fundamental issues confined to the bedroom?

Rarely, says Susan Johnson, originator of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Her work demonstrates how therapists can safely explore deep issues of intimacy and connection.

In our all-new webcast series on the practical applications of attachment theory, Sue discusses how therapists can help couples heal their relationship from the inside out.

In this video clip, Sue explains EFT’s role in the process.

Susan Johnson is just one of the six innovators included in our all-new video webcast series, Is Attachment the Problem? Putting Attachment Theory into Practice. It’s a great way to learn from experts including Bruce Ecker, Diane Poole Heller, Daniel Hughes, Maggie Phillips, and David Feinstein, and there is no more convenient, enjoyable way to expand your clinical repertoire. To learn more about this popular webcast, click here.

Want to learn more about attachment theory and clinical practice? Here’s a free article that’s popular with your peers: “Are You There for Me? Understanding the Foundations of Couples Conflict” by Susan Johnson.

Need CEs? Audio Courses available include The Heart of the Matter: A Clinician’s Guide to Attachment Theory with Susan Johnson.

About Susan Johnson: Susan helped develop Emotionally Focused Therapy, and is the director of the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute and the International Center for Excellence in EFT. Her latest book is Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love.

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3 Responses to At the Heart of Intimacy

  1. Pat Beck says:

    Couples therapy is the junk therapy of counseling. Even in this clip, both people are talking in generalities about very vague concepts and doing so in very stereotypical terms. Bottom line – no one can assure a client of a “lifetime” of love with one person. To do so is to negate the very real vicissitudes of human experience and to be dishonest about it. No wonder couples therapy has such a high failure rate.

  2. roger aveyard says:

    Chill out, Pat Beck!

  3. Russell Buckbee says:

    She’s right, but what I think we have learned is couples work is so much harder than we ever thought. Attachment thinking is a good start. When we learn how to do individual work, then we can begin to do couples therapy understanding what we are doing.

    Yes Pat, chill, meditate, do mindfulness, EMDR or what ever. After 30 years in the field with advanced skills training, I’ve mostly given up on couples work, because in part I agree with what Susan Johnson is saying. I’m trying to figure out how to help one person.

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