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Love in Lockdown

Esther Perel Shares the Trends She's Been Seeing with Her Clients

Esther Perel

Couples therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel explains how life in quarantine is changing the dynamics of romantic relationships, and what this means for couples therapy.

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My Client is Spinning Her Wheels

Five Clinicians Weigh In

Psychotherapy Networker

Week after week, a client’s sessions focus on her issues with her partner. Her therapist thinks couples therapy would be tremendously helpful, but the partner refuses to attend. The therapist worries her client is just spinning her wheels in individual therapy, since all she talks about are the changes she wants to see in her relationship, and isn't sure how to help her. Five therapists share how they'd proceed.

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Helping Clients in Toxic Relationships

How to Unravel Trauma Bonds

Ryan Howes

It’s important to recognize that a trauma bond doesn’t have to play out as overt, obvious toxicity or abuse. So many people in relationships have learned to be loved in ways that are transactional—“If you do this for me, I’ll comfort you,” or “If you play this role, I’ll show you affection”—and it's now exhausting them. Therapist and researcher Laura Copley shares how to help clients interrupt these unhealthy, even dangerous, relational patterns.

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Working with Conflict-Avoidant Men

A Three-Part Approach to Defusing Shame

Sara Schwarzbaum

I’ve spent a long time doing therapy with conflict-avoidant men. Working with them isn’t always easy, but I’ve developed a three-part road map that’s helped me expedite what can often be a lengthy and difficult process. This is the story of a particular couple that fundamentally shaped my approach.

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The Dance of Healthy Connection

Sue Johnson on EFT and Attachment Theory

Susan Johnson

What does Attachment Theory tell us? That emotion is the most powerful force in the therapy room, says couples therapist Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Here, she explains how to establish a safe, supportive connection with the client and facilitate that same connection between partners in treatment.

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Couples Therapy During Coronavirus

Challenges and Opportunities

Sara Schwarzbaum

A clinician who's spent almost two years doing online couples therapy shares the tips and strategies she's found especially helpful.

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VIDEO: Esther Perel on Working with Couples in Quarantine

What They Need Most Right Now

Esther Perel

Partners in quarantine are facing distinct challenges, says couples therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel. Here, she breaks down the patterns she's seeing and shares what she's doing to help polarized couples repair their relationship.

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VIDEO: Attachment Theory in 9 Minutes

Sue Johnson Breaks Down the Core Tenets

Susan Johnson

Perhaps now more than ever, maintaining strong relationships is crucial to our emotional well-being. In this video clip from the 2020 Virtual Symposium, EFT originator Sue Johnson explains the core tenets of attachment theory.

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Esther Perel on Creating Erotic Experiences

Does Good Intimacy Mean Good Sex?

Esther Perel

By Esther Perel - It’s long been the conventional wisdom among couples therapists that if couples fix the emotional issues in their relationship, their sexual lives will improve. But good intimacy doesn’t guarantee good sex.

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Psychotherapy's Most Quotable Voice

What Makes Esther Perel Stand Out?

Lauren Dockett, Rich Simon

By Lauren Dockett and Rich Simon - By questioning some of the fundamental premises of traditional marriage, couples therapist Esther Perel has become, at least for the moment, psychotherapy’s public face and most quotable voice. But what is she saying that’s so intriguing and makes her stand out from all the other relationship experts our field produces?

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