VIDEO: The Found and the Lost

A Transformation

Terry Real

Many people wonder how therapists manage to do the work they do. How can we sit in a chair week after week for hours on end, listening to other people’s pain and longing? What could possibly make it worthwhile?

Of the thousands of meaningful sessions that take place in a therapist’s office, certain ones stand out. They’re the ones that shake us to the core, experiences so powerful that years—sometimes decades—later, we still remember them.

Here, in a Networker Symposium highlight from our evening of storytelling, therapist Terry Real invites us to experience the moment that was most transformative in his own clinical work. 

Terry Real, PhD, LICSW, is the author of the bestselling I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, and has been featured on numerous national news programs. He’s the founder of The Relational Life Institute, where he does therapist trainings and workshops for couples.

Most therapists will recognize transformative stories like Terry's. Sometimes, a seemingly ordinary observation we make turns out to be revelatory to a client. At other times, we may hold our breath and take an enormous risk, having no clue whether it will fly or fail. Or something shattering happens to a client that allows him or her to seize life, rather than lose faith in it.

What’s clear to most clinicians, though, is that the work they do is breathtakingly intimate. We’re witnesses to the deepest nooks and crannies of human experience. We get to be present for the most vital stories of people’s lives.


Did you enjoy this video? Check out the other storytelling pieces from our other Symposium presenters in the May/June 2016 issue of the Networker, Unexpected Gifts: Six Master Therapists Recall Their Most Unforgettable Sessions.

If you'd like to learn more about Terry's work, check out his article, Rowing to Nowhere: When Is Enough Enough?

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Topic: Couples | Grief

Tags: Children | Couples & Family | death | death in the family | Depression & Grief | divorce | divorce counseling | Networker Symposium | Parenting | Symposium | Terry Real

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Sunday, June 5, 2016 4:10:54 PM | posted by PAULA
Incredibly moving story!