"Life is often a hard trail, and nonetheless, hopefully a long one," says Rick Hanson, psychologist and bestselling author of Hardwiring Happiness. "To walk it with joy and love and peace, we all need refuges," he adds, "people and places and activities that repair and refuel us, that give us sanctuary."
In the following video clip from Rick's unforgettable 2016 Networker Symposium address, "How Hard Times Can Open the Heart," Rick shares how each of us can find refuge in our own lives by turning to those who love us, and those we love in return.
In one of the most moving moments from the Symposium, Rick invoked the spirit of Mr. Rogers to help attendees better acknowledge their connection with each other and savor their most inspiring moments at the conference. Finally, Rick asked the audience to take just a few seconds—a rare and precious act—he says, to reflect on those who've "loved them into being."
Rick Hanson, PhD, is a neuropsychologist and New York Times bestselling author. A Senior Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkeley, he’s been an invited speaker at Oxford, Stanford, and Harvard, and taught in meditation centers worldwide.
Reflections like these, Rick says, are essential to helping therapists and the public alike stave off burnout and gain a greater appreciation for the large and small moments that often escape us during the day-to-day grind.
"At this time in human history, it's all too easy to see the 'them-ness' of others, and then to stop looking," says Rick. "So there's nothing more important than to find refuge, again and again, in the 'us-ness' of the person sitting next to you, or across the street, or across the world."
Stay tuned for more of Rick's clinical wisdom in our upcoming video blogs!
Did you enjoy this video? Check out Rick's article on psychotherapy's fascination with brain science in "The Next Big Step." You might also like "The Motherhood Marathon," in which Rick explains how to help clients who have been overwhelmed by motherhood and need help with the modern challenges of raising a family.