It can be difficult to leave your emotions in the consulting room at the end of the day, especially when a client's story is heartbreaking or horrifying. But being shadowed by a client's pain can leave you depleted and ultimately interfere with your ability to be present and effective in session. So how do you keep a wise and compassionate balance?
Here, Jack Kornfield, Buddhist teacher, psychotherapist, and a pioneer in helping therapists understand Eastern spiritual concepts and practices since the 1970s, offers us an answer with an example from his own clinical work.
Jack Kornfield, PhD cofounded the Insight Meditation Society, is a founding teacher of the Spirit Rock Center, and has led International Buddhist Teacher meetings with the Dalai Lama. His books have been translated into 20 languages. They include The Art of Forgiveness and Bringing Home the Dharma: Awakening Right Where You Are.
As Kornfield explains, simple rituals can increase your ability to hold even the most difficult circumstances compassionately with your clients during session and reduce the chances you'll be haunted by them after hours.
"Human beings are meaning-making creatures," Kornfield says in his interview with Networker Editor Rich Simon. "We need to find meaning, or we’re lost. There’s an innate impulse in us to look at the mystery that surrounds us and try to honor it in some deep way. One way to do that is through the ancient language of ritual."
You might also be interested in our interview with Kornfield, "A Doorway to Mystery," in which he explains the importance of creating "a sacred space" in therapy and specific practices therapists can use to bring ritual into their work.
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