At the Heart of Intimacy

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Susan Johnson on Helping Couples Heal from the
Inside Out

When a couple enters therapy to address sexual problems, are their fundamental issues confined to the bedroom?

Rarely, says Susan Johnson, originator of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT). Fear of intimacy, childhood wounds, and attachment issues are usually lurking in the background

In this video, Sue shows you how to help your clients safely explore deep issues of intimacy and connection from the inside out.

Susan Johnson directs the Ottawa Couple and Family Institute and the International Center for Excellence in EFT. This clip is taken from her session in our attachment video course:

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  • Create a safe environment for clients that enables you to establish a deeper therapeutic connection

  • Apply the principles of Attachment Theory with couples, children, and families as well as pain and trauma sufferers

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Topic: Children/Adolescents | Attachment Theory | Couples

Tags: attachment issues | EFT | emotionally focused couples therapy | families | family | fear of intimacy | HEAL | intimacy | sex | sexuality | Susan Johnson | therapist | therapy | Ask The Experts | Couple's Therapy

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Monday, May 11, 2015 10:38:38 PM | posted by Brian Collinson
Couples' work is incredibly tough. But anyone who does a significant amount of it could certainly benefit from an attachment perspective.

Wednesday, October 10, 2012 6:11:51 PM | posted by Russell Buckbee
She's right, but what I think we have learned is couples work is so much harder than we ever thought. Attachment thinking is a good start. When we learn how to do individual work, then we can begin to do couples therapy understanding what we are doing.

Yes Pat, chill, meditate, do mindfulness, EMDR or what ever. After 30 years in the field with advanced skills training, I've mostly given up on couples work, because in part I agree with what Susan Johnson is saying. I'm trying to figure out how to help one person.

Monday, October 8, 2012 8:08:38 PM | posted by roger aveyard
Chill out, Pat Beck!

Sunday, October 7, 2012 2:21:04 PM | posted by Pat Beck
Couples therapy is the junk therapy of counseling. Even in this clip, both people are talking in generalities about very vague concepts and doing so in very stereotypical terms. Bottom line - no one can assure a client of a "lifetime" of love with one person. To do so is to negate the very real vicissitudes of human experience and to be dishonest about it. No wonder couples therapy has such a high failure rate.