The Power of Secure Attachment

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Offering deep relatedness from the very first session.

We all know what happens to a child when a parent is consistently unpredictable, frightening, or absent. That child often grows into someone who has a hard time being in relationships with self or others.

As therapists, what can we do?

According to Diane Poole Heller, an expert in trauma and attachment, therapy begins with a focus on the innate human desire to be connected to others. Starting there, we can help clients find their way back to meaningful, safe relationships.

 Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D., an expert in Somatic Experiencing and the DARE: Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning Experience model, is the author of Crash Course: A Self-Healing Guide to Auto Accident Trauma & Recovery. This clip is taken from her session in our attachment video course:

When Attachment is the Problem
This series provides a range of answers you can put to use in your work from the leaders in developing attachment-based psychotherapy. Expand your depth, range, and effectiveness as a therapist. You’ll learn to:

  • Identify when a client is suffering from attachment-based issues

  • Assess more accurately your clients’ different attachment styles and how to best address each one

  • Better tune into the powerful nonverbal dimension of therapy, including cues from clients and your own nonverbal communication

  • Create a safe environment for clients that enables you to establish a deeper therapeutic connection

  • Apply the principles of Attachment Theory with couples, children, and families as well as pain and trauma sufferers

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Topic: Attachment Theory | Children/Adolescents | Couples | Trauma

Tags: families | grief | psychotherapy | relationships | secure attachment | somatic experiencing | Susan Johnson | therapist | therapists | therapy | Ask The Experts

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Tuesday, October 2, 2012 4:09:51 PM | posted by KimT
I'm sure this is a very effective technique. However as I listened I wondered if it would be necessary to signal or name the client's act of putting on glasses as an activated attachment system. Could it be enough to just be there, to be attuned, empathic, and mirroring the clients emotional experience?

Tuesday, October 2, 2012 4:04:46 PM | posted by Julie Houck
I found the clip of Diane Poole Heller to be energetic and inspiring. I wanted to hear more. She introduced a few of her bag of tools to the session. I really enjoyed her energy.

Tuesday, October 2, 2012 3:23:03 PM | posted by Jacqueline Roig, PsyD
Perhaps it was the context of being interviewed, but the short clip left me fatigued! She speaks so quickly and almost breathlessly that I was wondering, if she acts that way in session, how someone could feel heard by her or at all secure in her presence. The ideas are simple, perhaps idealistic in how clients might respond to, for example, imagining grandmother as looking lovingly if grandmother did not leave that impression. Many times, people are unattached because they do not have that felt sense of being loved or safe. And it is not always straightforward, either; perhaps someone's "other" did approach them with love but the signals were misinterpreted, which brings the clinician to a whole different place...