Young kids can’t self-soothe and regulate emotion like adults can.
So in situations when children are acting out, repercussions like Time Out often lead to making the behavior worse, because they feel misunderstood and alone—leading them to act out even more.
Martha Straus, author of No-Talk Therapy for Children and Adolescents, says that when these situations occur, we need to “loan” kids our adult limbic brains and emotional stability to help them feel attended to and comforted.
In this brief video clip, Martha recalls an instance in which she used co-regulation with a young boy who was put in isolation after throwing a tantrum at school.
Martha Straus is the author of No-Talk Therapy for Children and Adolescents and Adolescent Girls in Crisis: Intervention and Hope. This clip is taken from her session in our kids and teens video course.
Nothing requires more of your clinical skills, attunement, and creativity than working well with children and teenagers. To complicate matters, parents are often at a loss about what they can do to help and many are unaware of how they may be contributing to their child’s challenges and distress. What’s hard to find is sound, practical advice to help you integrate today's most effective perspectives and methods for working with kids, adolescents, and parents into your current clinical approach to improve your client outcomes. Below are some other Psychotherapy Networker resources you might find useful.