After Infidelity: Focus on the Feelings, Not the Facts
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How understanding the desires that led to infidelity can help both partners rebuild trust
What’s the true nature of your feelings for your lover?
An honest answer to that question is what a therapist needs in order to help a couple decide how to move forward after infidelity according to Esther Perel—author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.
It opens the discussion to what the affair means to both partners and creates a space for exploring how they want to move forward from there.
Esther Perel, therapist and author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, is the recipient of the 2009 book award from the Society for Sex Therapy and Research. This clip is taken from her session in our couples video course:
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Topic: Children/Adolescents | Couples
Tags: affairs | boundaries | divorce | emotional intimacy | Esther Perel | infidelity | intimacy | relationships | sex | sex therapy | sexuality | therapist | therapy | NP0062: Changing Face of Marriage | couple | Couples & Family
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Wednesday, December 10, 2014 3:35:56 PM | posted by nancy encarnacion
