How to Engage a Narcissist in Therapy

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Wendy Behary On The Keys To Successfully Treating Narcissists

Underneath it all, the narcissist is skeptical and frightened.

That’s the first thing to remember, according to Wendy Behary, a recognized expert in treating narcissistic men. The second is to use the consulting room as a microcosm of the wider world. Third, and most important, is to stay in the moment.

Engaging without enabling is possible, as Wendy demonstrates in this video clip.


Wendy Behary is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and author of Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. This clip is taken from her session in our challenging cases video course:

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