There's a tendency to think that most men just aren't as emotionally expressive as women. After all, the stereotype of the female caretaker and the stoic, male breadwinner still holds true for many people.
But the truth is that many men are actually just as emotionally in-touch as women---they just express emotion differently because of how their brains are wired.
Couples therapist Pat Love is an expert when it comes to helping men open up in therapy. In the video clip below, you'll hear Pat explain how emotions run deeper than just "mirror neurons." Men heavily rely on what scientists call the brain's Temporal Parietal Junction (TPJ) System. When a partner is in distress, the TPJ kicks in and a fix-it mentality becomes activated.
Pat Love, a relationship consultant and marriage and family therapist, is the coauthor of Hot Monogamy and How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It.
Want to help the men in your office learn to listen, connect, and empathize better with their partners?
According to Pat, this begins with expanding our narrow definition of empathy. Let us know what you think by sharing your thoughts in the comments section below.
Did you enjoy this video? Check out Pat's article on the link between romance and biochemistry in her Networker article, "What is This Thing Called Love?: The Answers are Being Discovered in the Laboratory"
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