In the past, resilience was thought of as an immutable trait: something we're born with that predetermines how well we can tolerate stress. In reality, Linda Graham explains, “resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity.” It's something that can be developed with training, like a muscle.
So how do therapists go about strengthening their clients’ resilience “muscles”?
“We build resilience from our experience,” Graham says. “When clients learn from experience, they’re more likely to practice and continue to build that muscle. But they’re also learning that they can learn… Clients learn that they can learn new tools, and that they can become more resilient.”
Read more from Linda Graham on developing resilience, even when working with clients virtually, here.
Linda Graham, MFT, integrates relational psychology, mindfulness and neuroscience in her international trainings. She’s the author of Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster.