David Schnarch on Not Taking Lying Personally
Rich Simon • 3/5/2014 • 12 Comments
Dealing with dishonest clients can be frustrating no matter what type of services you're offering, but in couples therapy, it can be even more infuriating; not only is the client lying to you and to themselves, but they're lying to—and risking damaging their relationship with—their partner. But is their dishonesty worth getting angry over?
Not according to couples therapist David Schnarch. "It ain't personal," as he succinctly puts it. Part of the healing process is seeing and understanding how clients operate in their day-to-day existence, so a client who's being dishonest in their life should only naturally bring that into the consulting room.
In a clip from one of our Networker Webcast series, 2014 Symposium
presenter David talks about dishonesty in couples therapy and when he thinks it's time for the therapist to respond to it.
David Schnarch, PhD
, director of the Crucible Institute, is the author of Intimacy & Desire
, Passionate Marriage
, and Constructing the Sexual Crucible
Join us at the 2014 Networker Symposium to hear David speak as part of the Couples Therapy Flash Forum, "Advances and Challenges in Couples Therapy Today
," and/or attend his workshop, "Removing the Masks
Networker Symposium 2014
March 20-23 in Washington, DC