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Helping People Pleasers Set Boundaries

…And What to Do When It Backfires

Alicia Muñoz • 11/21/2019

Alicia Muñoz - Boundaries bind. They limit, stop, and inhibit. But they also free people up to be themselves. In couples where one partner is a people-pleaser, things can get even more complicated.

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Case Study

Bowing Out: The Dilemma of Uncoupling

Alicia Muñoz • 10/28/2019

If a loving couple shares a relationship history with no major deal-breaker issues, is “uncoupling” the best path?

*COMMENTARY by WILLIAM DOHERTY

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Family Matters

Breaking the Unspoken Rule: A MeToo Memory Offers Healing

Alicia Muñoz • 9/4/2019

A MeToo memory leads a mother and daughter to connection and healing.

Magazine Article

Confessions of a Former People Pleaser

The Radical Act of Rethinking Your Boundaries

Alicia Muñoz • 8/1/2019

By Alicia Muñoz - I used to view boundaries as a fancy way of dressing up rejection, incompetence, and selfishness. But after a decade of working as a couples counselor, I've learned just how much they create safety in relationships. They’re guardians of our life force, energy incubators, protectors of precious emotional resources, stokers and fuelers of self-respect.

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My Father's Ranch

A Daughter Wrestles with Bittersweet Memories and a New, Looming Threat

Alicia Muñoz • 1/8/2019

By Alicia Muñoz - Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.

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Putting an End to the Blame Game

A Tool for Helping Partners See Both Sides

Alicia Muñoz • 12/18/2018

By Alicia Muñoz - Giving up being right doesn’t mean you give up your convictions. It means honoring a multiplicity of viewpoints. Rumi says, “Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.” For couples, this garden is their relationship.

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“You Should Know What I Need”

A Simple Exercise to Help Couples Avoid the Assumption Trap

Alicia Muñoz • 11/16/2018

By Alicia Muñoz - Satisfying our needs is a gift our partners give us. Being responsible calls for a willingness to ask clearly and vulnerably for what we want, and to tolerate disappointment.

Daily Blog

Family Matters

The Inheritance: A Father Passes on a Complicated Legacy

Alicia Muñoz • 11/9/2018

Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.

Magazine Article

When Doing Nothing is Everything

Especially with Kids, Learning to Slow Down Is a Precious Gift

Alicia Muñoz • 8/30/2018

Alicia Muñoz - When I got sick, something amazing happened: I let go of my agenda. Poof—just like that. In the process, I learned there’s nothing more important than doing nothing for extended periods of time, particularly with your child. It’s easy to overlook nondoing as an important activity—or as an important inactivity.

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Case Study

The Challenge of Helping the People Pleaser: Setting Boundaries Can Be Risky

Alicia Muñoz • 7/6/2018

Helping clients set boundaries can be a risky business, especially when people pleasing has been a lifelong strategy. * Commentary by Courtney Armstrong

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Helping People Pleasers Set Boundaries

…And What to Do When It Backfires

Alicia Muñoz • 11/21/2019

Alicia Muñoz - Boundaries bind. They limit, stop, and inhibit. But they also free people up to be themselves. In couples where one partner is a people-pleaser, things can get even more complicated.

Daily Blog

Confessions of a Former People Pleaser

The Radical Act of Rethinking Your Boundaries

Alicia Muñoz • 8/1/2019

By Alicia Muñoz - I used to view boundaries as a fancy way of dressing up rejection, incompetence, and selfishness. But after a decade of working as a couples counselor, I've learned just how much they create safety in relationships. They’re guardians of our life force, energy incubators, protectors of precious emotional resources, stokers and fuelers of self-respect.

Daily Blog

My Father's Ranch

A Daughter Wrestles with Bittersweet Memories and a New, Looming Threat

Alicia Muñoz • 1/8/2019

By Alicia Muñoz - Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.

Daily Blog

Putting an End to the Blame Game

A Tool for Helping Partners See Both Sides

Alicia Muñoz • 12/18/2018

By Alicia Muñoz - Giving up being right doesn’t mean you give up your convictions. It means honoring a multiplicity of viewpoints. Rumi says, “Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.” For couples, this garden is their relationship.

Daily Blog

“You Should Know What I Need”

A Simple Exercise to Help Couples Avoid the Assumption Trap

Alicia Muñoz • 11/16/2018

By Alicia Muñoz - Satisfying our needs is a gift our partners give us. Being responsible calls for a willingness to ask clearly and vulnerably for what we want, and to tolerate disappointment.

Daily Blog

When Doing Nothing is Everything

Especially with Kids, Learning to Slow Down Is a Precious Gift

Alicia Muñoz • 8/30/2018

Alicia Muñoz - When I got sick, something amazing happened: I let go of my agenda. Poof—just like that. In the process, I learned there’s nothing more important than doing nothing for extended periods of time, particularly with your child. It’s easy to overlook nondoing as an important activity—or as an important inactivity.

Daily Blog
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Case Study

Bowing Out: The Dilemma of Uncoupling

Alicia Muñoz • 10/28/2019

If a loving couple shares a relationship history with no major deal-breaker issues, is “uncoupling” the best path?

*COMMENTARY by WILLIAM DOHERTY

Magazine Article

Family Matters

Breaking the Unspoken Rule: A MeToo Memory Offers Healing

Alicia Muñoz • 9/4/2019

A MeToo memory leads a mother and daughter to connection and healing.

Magazine Article

Family Matters

The Inheritance: A Father Passes on a Complicated Legacy

Alicia Muñoz • 11/9/2018

Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.

Magazine Article

Case Study

The Challenge of Helping the People Pleaser: Setting Boundaries Can Be Risky

Alicia Muñoz • 7/6/2018

Helping clients set boundaries can be a risky business, especially when people pleasing has been a lifelong strategy. * Commentary by Courtney Armstrong

Magazine Article
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Alicia Muñoz, LPC, is a certified marriage counselor and desire expert based in Falls Church, VA. She’s a contributor to Counseling Today, GoodTherapy.com, YourTango, PsychCentral, and Medium.com. She's currently writing her first book, SCAM: The Sexual Chemistry Attraction Myth & the Truth about Women’s Desire.