…And What to Do When It Backfires
Alicia Muñoz • 11/21/2019
Alicia Muñoz - Boundaries bind. They limit, stop, and inhibit. But they also free people up to be themselves. In couples where one partner is a people-pleaser, things can get even more complicated.
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Bowing Out: The Dilemma of Uncoupling
Alicia Muñoz • 10/28/2019
If a loving couple shares a relationship history with no major deal-breaker issues, is “uncoupling” the best path?
*COMMENTARY by WILLIAM DOHERTY
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Breaking the Unspoken Rule: A MeToo Memory Offers Healing
Alicia Muñoz • 9/4/2019
A MeToo memory leads a mother and daughter to connection and healing.
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The Radical Act of Rethinking Your Boundaries
Alicia Muñoz • 8/1/2019
By Alicia Muñoz - I used to view boundaries as a fancy way of dressing up rejection, incompetence, and selfishness. But after a decade of working as a couples counselor, I've learned just how much they create safety in relationships. They’re guardians of our life force, energy incubators, protectors of precious emotional resources, stokers and fuelers of self-respect.
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A Daughter Wrestles with Bittersweet Memories and a New, Looming Threat
Alicia Muñoz • 1/8/2019
By Alicia Muñoz - Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.
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A Tool for Helping Partners See Both Sides
Alicia Muñoz • 12/18/2018
By Alicia Muñoz - Giving up being right doesn’t mean you give up your convictions. It means honoring a multiplicity of viewpoints. Rumi says, “Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.” For couples, this garden is their relationship.
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A Simple Exercise to Help Couples Avoid the Assumption Trap
Alicia Muñoz • 11/16/2018
By Alicia Muñoz - Satisfying our needs is a gift our partners give us. Being responsible calls for a willingness to ask clearly and vulnerably for what we want, and to tolerate disappointment.
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The Inheritance: A Father Passes on a Complicated Legacy
Alicia Muñoz • 11/9/2018
Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.
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Especially with Kids, Learning to Slow Down Is a Precious Gift
Alicia Muñoz • 8/30/2018
Alicia Muñoz - When I got sick, something amazing happened: I let go of my agenda. Poof—just like that. In the process, I learned there’s nothing more important than doing nothing for extended periods of time, particularly with your child. It’s easy to overlook nondoing as an important activity—or as an important inactivity.
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The Challenge of Helping the People Pleaser: Setting Boundaries Can Be Risky
Alicia Muñoz • 7/6/2018
Helping clients set boundaries can be a risky business, especially when people pleasing has been a lifelong strategy. * Commentary by Courtney Armstrong
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