A Daughter Wrestles with Bittersweet Memories and a New, Looming Threat
By Alicia Muñoz - Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.
A Tool for Helping Partners See Both Sides
By Alicia Muñoz - Giving up being right doesn’t mean you give up your convictions. It means honoring a multiplicity of viewpoints. Rumi says, “Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.” For couples, this garden is their relationship.
A Simple Exercise to Help Couples Avoid the Assumption Trap
By Alicia Muñoz - Satisfying our needs is a gift our partners give us. Being responsible calls for a willingness to ask clearly and vulnerably for what we want, and to tolerate disappointment.
The Inheritance: A Father Passes on a Complicated Legacy
Sometimes family legacies can stir up complicated feelings and outright conflict.
Especially with Kids, Learning to Slow Down Is a Precious Gift
Alicia Muñoz - When I got sick, something amazing happened: I let go of my agenda. Poof—just like that. In the process, I learned there’s nothing more important than doing nothing for extended periods of time, particularly with your child. It’s easy to overlook nondoing as an important activity—or as an important inactivity.
…And What to Do When It Backfires
Alicia Muñoz - Boundaries bind. They limit, stop, and inhibit. But they also free people up to be themselves. In couples where one partner is a people-pleaser, things can get even more complicated.
The Challenge of Helping the People Pleaser: Setting Boundaries Can Be Risky
Helping clients set boundaries can be a risky business, especially when people pleasing has been a lifelong strategy. * Commentary by Courtney Armstrong