What It Really Means to Apologize
...And Why Good Treatment Means Holding Wrongdoers Accountable
By Harriet Lerner - There’s no greater challenge than listening to the anger and pain of someone who’s accusing us of causing it. To do so, people need to have a solid platform of self-worth to stand on, from which they can look out at their bad behavior and apologize because they see their mistakes as part of a much larger, complex picture of who they are as a human being.
Daily Blog
The Challenge of the Healing Apology
Highlights from Symposium 2018
At this cultural moment of the #MeToo movement, which has heightened awareness of a broad range of transgressions, psychologist and bestselling author Harriet Lerner offered a penetrating analysis of the truly healing apology.
Magazine Article
The Power of Apologizing
What It Takes to Really Be Sorry
Unlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to heal broken connections and restore trust. But an apology that opens the door to forgiveness and healing for serious harm is a long-distance run that requires courage, clarity, and integrity.
Magazine Article
Apologizing Under Fire
How to Handle Big-Time Criticism
It’s difficult enough to offer an apology when we see the need for it and believe it’s the right thing to do. It’s far more difficult when we’re confronted with criticism we didn’t see coming, and that we don’t believe is fair.
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What It Really Means to Apologize
...And Why Good Treatment Means Holding Wrongdoers Accountable
By Harriet Lerner - There’s no greater challenge than listening to the anger and pain of someone who’s accusing us of causing it. To do so, people need to have a solid platform of self-worth to stand on, from which they can look out at their bad behavior and apologize because they see their mistakes as part of a much larger, complex picture of who they are as a human being.
Daily Blog
Page 1 of 1
The Challenge of the Healing Apology
Highlights from Symposium 2018
At this cultural moment of the #MeToo movement, which has heightened awareness of a broad range of transgressions, psychologist and bestselling author Harriet Lerner offered a penetrating analysis of the truly healing apology.
Magazine Article
The Power of Apologizing
What It Takes to Really Be Sorry
Unlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to heal broken connections and restore trust. But an apology that opens the door to forgiveness and healing for serious harm is a long-distance run that requires courage, clarity, and integrity.
Magazine Article
Apologizing Under Fire
How to Handle Big-Time Criticism
It’s difficult enough to offer an apology when we see the need for it and believe it’s the right thing to do. It’s far more difficult when we’re confronted with criticism we didn’t see coming, and that we don’t believe is fair.
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Harriet Lerner is one of our nation's most respected voices on the psychology of women and marriage and family relationships. For three decades, she was a staff psychologist and psychotherapist at The Menninger Clinic in Topeka, Kansas, and a faculty member and supervisor in the Karl Menninger School of Psychiatry. Currently in private practice in Lawrence, Kansas, she is the author of numerous scholarly articles and 11 books, including the New York Times best-seller, The Dance of Anger, Women in Therapy, The Dance of Connection, and The Dance of Fear. Lerner has been a guest on Oprah, CNN, NPR and numerous other media. She is also, with her sister, an award-winning children's book author, and she hosts a blog for Psychology Today and The Huffington Post. Lerner's new book is Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and The Coupled Up.
