…While Holding Wrongdoers Accountable
By Harriet Lerner - We’re all imperfect human beings, so the need to give and receive apologies is with us until our very last breath. Yet there’s no greater challenge than listening to the anger and pain of someone who’s accusing us of causing it.
An Apple Seed and Trained Monkeys: Growing Up Under the Influence of My Big Sister's Imagination
Whether as playmate, protector, or tormentor, a big sister looms large in the imagination of her younger sibling.
Highlights from Symposium 2018
At this cultural moment of the #MeToo movement, which has heightened awareness of a broad range of transgressions, psychologist and bestselling author Harriet Lerner offered a penetrating analysis of the truly healing apology.
What It Takes to Really Be Sorry
Unlike the faux public apologies from men accused of sexual misconduct that 2017 will likely be remembered for, our private apologies have the potential to heal broken connections and restore trust. But an apology that opens the door to forgiveness and healing for serious harm is a long-distance run that requires courage, clarity, and integrity.
How to Handle Big-Time Criticism
It’s difficult enough to offer an apology when we see the need for it and believe it’s the right thing to do. It’s far more difficult when we’re confronted with criticism we didn’t see coming, and that we don’t believe is fair.