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Got the Magic Touch?

Four Behaviors of Gifted Therapists and How to Cultivate Them

Dafna Lender • 7/25/2019

By Dafna Lender - We’ve now moved past the point where we rely only on intuition to elicit trust and openness. Microbehaviors occur within fractions of a second, most of them not conscious to the sender or receiver, and some greatly contribute to inspiring feelings of safety, connection, and comfort. Here are four ways these emotional messages are transmitted.

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VIDEO: Using Play with Adults in Therapy

Dafna Lender Demonstrates Three Proven Techniques

Dafna Lender • 4/3/2019

Any therapist who works with kids will tell you that incorporating play in therapy is a great way to break the ice, reduce anxiety, and strengthen the therapeutic alliance. But as Dafna Lender explains, it also works great with adults. Here, she demonstrates three of her favorite techniques.

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Theraplay® Techniques to Transform Your Most Challenging, Resistant & Dysregulated Children
Copyright:
11/30/2018
Author:
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
Product:
RNV052365
Type:
$199.99 USD     $99.99 USD
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VIDEO: Dafna Lender on Harnessing Your Social Engagement System

Strategies for Building the Therapeutic Alliance More Easily

Dafna Lender • 11/7/2018

We all know therapists who seem magically able to establish a powerful sense of trust and connection with even the most distrusting clients. But are there specific behaviors common to exceptionally gifted therapists that we can study, practice, and cultivate?

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A Nightmare No More

Repairing the Parent-Child Bond is a Two-Way Street

Dafna Lender • 10/8/2018

By Dafna Lender - When difficulties arise between parent and child, most therapists naturally focus treatment on the child. But the parent–child bond is a two-way street, and parents come with their own history. In these situations, I can often find ways to help parents and children connect through attachment-based games that involve elements of silliness, movement, and surprise.

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Copyright:
9/19/2018
Authors:
JANINA FISHER, PH.D.
 
STEPHEN PORGES, PH.D.
 
KATE COHEN-POSEY, M.S., LMHC, LMFT
 
RICHARD SIMON, PH.D.
 
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
 
JONATHAN BAYLIN, PH.D.
 
DEB DANA, LCSW, LICSW
Product:
NRS001280
Type:
$559.95 USD     $199.99 USD

Case Study

A Playful Path to Attachment

Dafna Lender • 9/5/2018

Through games that encourage small moments of laughter, a struggling mother and her adopted daughter learn a different way to bond.

Magazine Article
Copyright:
3/22/2018
Authors:
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
 
JONATHAN BAYLIN, PH.D.
Product:
RNV095932
Essential Strategies for Anxiety, OCD, Trauma, Bullying & More
Copyright:
2/28/2018
Authors:
CHRISTOPHER WILLARD, PSY.D.
 
MARTHA STRAUS, PH.D.
 
PHYLLIS BOOTH, MA
 
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
 
LYNN LYONS, LICSW
 
SIGNE WHITSON, LSW-C-SSWS
Product:
NRS001240
Type:
$719.93 USD     $299.99

Tuning into Attunement

How to Harness Your Social Engagement System

Dafna Lender • 1/8/2018

We all know people who have the magic touch when it comes to relating to others. They can instantly connect with strangers and put people at ease without even saying a word. Therapists with this ability have a natural advantage, so are there specific behaviors we can practice to elicit trust and openness? Luckily, the answer is yes—and Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory provides the key.

Magazine Article
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Theraplay® Techniques to Transform Your Most Challenging, Resistant & Dysregulated Children
Copyright:
11/30/2018
Author:
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
Product:
RNV052365
Type:
$199.99 USD     $99.99 USD
includes free shipping
Copyright:
9/19/2018
Authors:
JANINA FISHER, PH.D.
 
STEPHEN PORGES, PH.D.
 
KATE COHEN-POSEY, M.S., LMHC, LMFT
 
RICHARD SIMON, PH.D.
 
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
 
JONATHAN BAYLIN, PH.D.
 
DEB DANA, LCSW, LICSW
Product:
NRS001280
Type:
$559.95 USD     $199.99 USD
Copyright:
3/22/2018
Authors:
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
 
JONATHAN BAYLIN, PH.D.
Product:
RNV095932
Essential Strategies for Anxiety, OCD, Trauma, Bullying & More
Copyright:
2/28/2018
Authors:
CHRISTOPHER WILLARD, PSY.D.
 
MARTHA STRAUS, PH.D.
 
PHYLLIS BOOTH, MA
 
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
 
LYNN LYONS, LICSW
 
SIGNE WHITSON, LSW-C-SSWS
Product:
NRS001240
Type:
$719.93 USD     $299.99
How Therapists Can Help
Copyright:
3/24/2017
Authors:
PHYLLIS BOOTH, MA
 
DAFNA LENDER, LCSW
Product:
RNV052785
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Got the Magic Touch?

Four Behaviors of Gifted Therapists and How to Cultivate Them

Dafna Lender • 7/25/2019

By Dafna Lender - We’ve now moved past the point where we rely only on intuition to elicit trust and openness. Microbehaviors occur within fractions of a second, most of them not conscious to the sender or receiver, and some greatly contribute to inspiring feelings of safety, connection, and comfort. Here are four ways these emotional messages are transmitted.

Daily Blog

VIDEO: Using Play with Adults in Therapy

Dafna Lender Demonstrates Three Proven Techniques

Dafna Lender • 4/3/2019

Any therapist who works with kids will tell you that incorporating play in therapy is a great way to break the ice, reduce anxiety, and strengthen the therapeutic alliance. But as Dafna Lender explains, it also works great with adults. Here, she demonstrates three of her favorite techniques.

Daily Blog

VIDEO: Dafna Lender on Harnessing Your Social Engagement System

Strategies for Building the Therapeutic Alliance More Easily

Dafna Lender • 11/7/2018

We all know therapists who seem magically able to establish a powerful sense of trust and connection with even the most distrusting clients. But are there specific behaviors common to exceptionally gifted therapists that we can study, practice, and cultivate?

Daily Blog

A Nightmare No More

Repairing the Parent-Child Bond is a Two-Way Street

Dafna Lender • 10/8/2018

By Dafna Lender - When difficulties arise between parent and child, most therapists naturally focus treatment on the child. But the parent–child bond is a two-way street, and parents come with their own history. In these situations, I can often find ways to help parents and children connect through attachment-based games that involve elements of silliness, movement, and surprise.

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The Power of Play

How to Use a Fast Road to Connection with Children

Dafna Lender • 10/12/2017

By Dafna Lender - If my experience is any indication, most beginning therapists are also offered little to no basic training in clinical work with kids. Why is this? The kinds of interventions that are most effective with children are based in play. Play is a remarkably powerful therapeutic tool, backed up by cutting-edge research, and teaching families how to apply it at home can bring about profound systemic changes.

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Case Study

A Playful Path to Attachment

Dafna Lender • 9/5/2018

Through games that encourage small moments of laughter, a struggling mother and her adopted daughter learn a different way to bond.

Magazine Article

Tuning into Attunement

How to Harness Your Social Engagement System

Dafna Lender • 1/8/2018

We all know people who have the magic touch when it comes to relating to others. They can instantly connect with strangers and put people at ease without even saying a word. Therapists with this ability have a natural advantage, so are there specific behaviors we can practice to elicit trust and openness? Luckily, the answer is yes—and Stephen Porges’s polyvagal theory provides the key.

Magazine Article

Daring to Play

The Challenge of Embracing Our Youngest Clients

Dafna Lender • 9/7/2017

Although they make up nearly a quarter of the population, children are rarely a central part of therapists’ practices. Why? The most effective interventions are based in play, an approach that seems less sophisticated than purportedly deep and transformative adult-centered talk therapies. It’s time to give play therapy the fuller attention and expanded application that it deserves.

Magazine Article
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Dafna Lender, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker who has worked in the field of child welfare and child mental health for 20+ years. Dafna serves as the program director at The Theraplay Institute in Evanston, IL and is certified as a practitioner, supervisor and trainer in both Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP). Dafna trains psychotherapists internationally in these methods and trains in three languages.

Dafna’s focus is children’s development of a secure attachment with their caregivers while resolving issues in their traumatic history. Early in her career, Dafna worked in treatment foster care and witnessed child after child “fail” out of foster placements due to difficult behavior. Children were disruptive, unsettled and unhappy, and their caregivers felt defeated. Dafna’s sense of discouragement went way after taking the Theraplay training and learning direct, concrete ideas and interactions that she could apply in home with her treatment families to promote healthier, stable relationships. Dafna has successfully treated children with a variety of backgrounds, including children raised in orphanages, with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder, exposed to domestic violence and community violence and children of parents with chronic mental illness.