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Why Are Narcissists So Hard to Treat?

How and When to Push Back

Wendy Behary • 8/17/2018

By Wendy Behary - Narcissists are notoriously difficult clients. The key to working with them is being direct about the roiling emotions they trigger in us, and remembering that their self-aggrandizement almost always covers up painful longings for true connection, intimacy, and a sense that they’re "good enough."

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What to Say When Clients Push Your Buttons

How to Spot, Confront, and Correct Self-Defeating Patterns

Wendy Behary • 3/27/2018

By Wendy Behary - There are ways to deliver profoundly effective, on-the-spot responses during difficult encounters—ways that can mobilize you and restore the receptive, flexible, and empathically attuned you. I've chosen a small sample of a long list of examples that colleagues and trainees have shared with me over the years, including my own personal favorites.

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Challenging The Narcissist

How to Find Pathways to Empathy

Wendy Behary • 7/8/2013

Given their arrogance, condescension, and lack of empathy, narcissists are notoriously difficult clients. The key to working with them is being direct and transparent about the roiling emotions they trigger in us.

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New Ways to Work Effectively with Your Most Challenging Clients
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1/1/2012
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TERRENCE REAL, LICSW
 
WILLIAM DOHERTY, PH.D.
 
RICHARD C. SCHWARTZ, PHD
 
WENDY T. BEHARY, MSW, LCSW
 
CLIFTON MITCHELL, PH.D.
 
CLOE MADANES, HDL, LIC
 
JOYANNA SILBERG, PHD
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The Way To Say It... What to do when your hot buttons get pushed

Wendy Behary • 5/1/2010

Some practical guidelines for handling confrontive and critical clients.

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7/20/2016
Author:
WENDY T. BEHARY, MSW, LCSW
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CRS001127
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$299.99 USD     $239.99
Copyright:
5/12/2016
Author:
WENDY T. BEHARY, MSW, LCSW
Product:
POS045600
Type:
$219.99 USD
Copyright:
11/12/2015
Author:
WENDY T. BEHARY, MSW, LCSW
Product:
POS048780
Type:
$439.99 USD
New Ways to Work Effectively with Your Most Challenging Clients
Copyright:
1/1/2012
Authors:
TERRENCE REAL, LICSW
 
WILLIAM DOHERTY, PH.D.
 
RICHARD C. SCHWARTZ, PHD
 
WENDY T. BEHARY, MSW, LCSW
 
CLIFTON MITCHELL, PH.D.
 
CLOE MADANES, HDL, LIC
 
JOYANNA SILBERG, PHD
Product:
NRC095865
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Why Are Narcissists So Hard to Treat?

How and When to Push Back

Wendy Behary • 8/17/2018

By Wendy Behary - Narcissists are notoriously difficult clients. The key to working with them is being direct about the roiling emotions they trigger in us, and remembering that their self-aggrandizement almost always covers up painful longings for true connection, intimacy, and a sense that they’re "good enough."

Daily Blog

What to Say When Clients Push Your Buttons

How to Spot, Confront, and Correct Self-Defeating Patterns

Wendy Behary • 3/27/2018

By Wendy Behary - There are ways to deliver profoundly effective, on-the-spot responses during difficult encounters—ways that can mobilize you and restore the receptive, flexible, and empathically attuned you. I've chosen a small sample of a long list of examples that colleagues and trainees have shared with me over the years, including my own personal favorites.

Daily Blog
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Challenging The Narcissist

How to Find Pathways to Empathy

Wendy Behary • 7/8/2013

Given their arrogance, condescension, and lack of empathy, narcissists are notoriously difficult clients. The key to working with them is being direct and transparent about the roiling emotions they trigger in us.

Magazine Article

In Consultation

The Way To Say It... What to do when your hot buttons get pushed

Wendy Behary • 5/1/2010

Some practical guidelines for handling confrontive and critical clients.

Magazine Article
Page 1 of 1 (2 Items)
Wendy T. Behary, MSW, LCSW, is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The New Jersey Institute for Schema Therapy. She has been treating clients, training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years. Wendy was on the faculty of the Cognitive Therapy Center and Schema Therapy Institute of New York, where she has trained and worked with Dr. Jeffrey Young since 1989. She is a founding fellow and Certified Supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Dr. Aaron T. Beck). Wendy served as the president of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014.

Wendy has co-authored chapters and articles on schema therapy and cognitive therapy. She is the author of (New Harbinger Publications- 2nd edition) Disarming the Narcissist…Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed. She has a specialty in treating narcissists and the people who live with and deal with them. As an author and an expert on the subject of narcissism, she is a contributing chapter author of several chapters on schema therapy for narcissism (Wiley Publications, APA Press and Guildford). She lectures both nationally and internationally to professional on schema therapy, and the subject of narcissism, relationships, and dealing with difficult people. Her private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, partners/people dealing with them, and couples experiencing relationship problems.