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Rethinking the Female Affair

When It Comes to Treating Women Who Cheat, Too Many Therapists Are Making This Mistake

Tammy Nelson • 6/29/2018

By Tammy Nelson - Far from being evidence of pathology or marital bankruptcy, a woman’s affair can be a way of expressing a desire for an entirely different self. Sometimes, understanding an affair as an unconscious bid for self-empowerment, relief from bad sex, or a response to a lack of choices or personal freedom is an important first step toward a fuller, more mature selfhood.

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The Retiring Rebel

Rethinking the Way We Help Clients Face the Midlife Crisis

Tammy Nelson • 4/20/2018

By Tammy Nelson - Rather than thinking of midlife as an emotional unraveling, I believe it’s more helpful to reframe this stage of life in our early 50s and 60s as “second adolescence,” a time when we’re old enough to appreciate how short life is, but young enough to find new ways to enjoy it.

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Case Study

Second Adolescence: An Alternative to the Midlife Crisis

Tammy Nelson • 3/9/2018

Instead of viewing midlife as a time of emotional unraveling, therapists can see it as an opportunity to help clients gain a fuller sense of purpose in life’s later stages.

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What Talking About Fantasy Can Do for Couples Therapy

...And Four Questions to Get the Conversation Started

Tammy Nelson • 1/5/2018

By Tammy Nelson - Sexual boredom often results from the assumption by each partner that there's no longer anything new to discover about the other, or about their sex life together. I've found that a therapist can alleviate such sexual ennui by helping each partner reveal previously undisclosed erotic fantasies. This apparently simple step can lead to new ways of seeing and experiencing the partner and the self.

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VIDEO: Tammy Nelson Explains What Infidelity Looks Like

What the Many Forms of Cheating Have in Common

Tammy Nelson • 3/1/2017

Of course, sexual affairs are red flags for infidelity, but the common element that makes any outside relationship an infidelity is the presence of secrecy and dishonesty. In the following video clip, sex therapist Tammy Nelson explains how to spot it.

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How Affairs Can Reveal and Even Heal Relationship Dysfunction

Tammy Nelson's Three-Step Process for Recovering from Infidelity

Tammy Nelson • 12/30/2015

Even though our ideas about sex and sexuality have greatly advanced over the last half-century, our culture still holds a double standard about infidelity: we still tend to pathologize women or shame them for having affairs. In my view, far from being evidence of pathology or marital bankruptcy, a woman’s affair can be a way of expressing a desire for an entirely different self, either separate from the marriage altogether or still in it. By understanding this, therapists have an opportunity to help troubled couples create a new relationship with better communication, fuller intimacy, and realistic hope for a better future together.

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The Intentional Divorce

Helping Couples Let Go with Dignity

Tammy Nelson • 10/21/2015

In today’s changing world, therapists need a new road map for helping couples end unions with their dignity intact, their sanity whole, and in a greater spirit of cooperation and good will.

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Proven approaches for attachment issues, addiction, abuse & more
Copyright:
6/20/2017
Authors:
SUSAN JOHNSON, ED.D.
 
DANIEL J SIEGEL, M.D.
 
KATHRYN RHEEM, ED.D.
 
TAMMY NELSON, PHD
 
TERRENCE REAL, LICSW
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The Changing Face of Committed Relationships
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3/24/2017
Author:
TAMMY NELSON, PHD
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7/25/2016
Authors:
BARRY W MCCARTHY, PHD, ABPP
 
TAMMY NELSON, PHD
 
MARTY KLEIN, PHD
 
JOE KORT, PH.D., LMSW
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Navigating New Norms about Intimacy, Sexuality, Personal Freedom and the Purpose of Marriage
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ESTHER PEREL, MA, LMFT
 
MICHELE WEINER-DAVIS, MSW
 
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Rethinking the Female Affair

When It Comes to Treating Women Who Cheat, Too Many Therapists Are Making This Mistake

Tammy Nelson • 6/29/2018

By Tammy Nelson - Far from being evidence of pathology or marital bankruptcy, a woman’s affair can be a way of expressing a desire for an entirely different self. Sometimes, understanding an affair as an unconscious bid for self-empowerment, relief from bad sex, or a response to a lack of choices or personal freedom is an important first step toward a fuller, more mature selfhood.

Daily Blog

The Retiring Rebel

Rethinking the Way We Help Clients Face the Midlife Crisis

Tammy Nelson • 4/20/2018

By Tammy Nelson - Rather than thinking of midlife as an emotional unraveling, I believe it’s more helpful to reframe this stage of life in our early 50s and 60s as “second adolescence,” a time when we’re old enough to appreciate how short life is, but young enough to find new ways to enjoy it.

Daily Blog

What Talking About Fantasy Can Do for Couples Therapy

...And Four Questions to Get the Conversation Started

Tammy Nelson • 1/5/2018

By Tammy Nelson - Sexual boredom often results from the assumption by each partner that there's no longer anything new to discover about the other, or about their sex life together. I've found that a therapist can alleviate such sexual ennui by helping each partner reveal previously undisclosed erotic fantasies. This apparently simple step can lead to new ways of seeing and experiencing the partner and the self.

Daily Blog

VIDEO: Tammy Nelson Explains What Infidelity Looks Like

What the Many Forms of Cheating Have in Common

Tammy Nelson • 3/1/2017

Of course, sexual affairs are red flags for infidelity, but the common element that makes any outside relationship an infidelity is the presence of secrecy and dishonesty. In the following video clip, sex therapist Tammy Nelson explains how to spot it.

Daily Blog

How Affairs Can Reveal and Even Heal Relationship Dysfunction

Tammy Nelson's Three-Step Process for Recovering from Infidelity

Tammy Nelson • 12/30/2015

Even though our ideas about sex and sexuality have greatly advanced over the last half-century, our culture still holds a double standard about infidelity: we still tend to pathologize women or shame them for having affairs. In my view, far from being evidence of pathology or marital bankruptcy, a woman’s affair can be a way of expressing a desire for an entirely different self, either separate from the marriage altogether or still in it. By understanding this, therapists have an opportunity to help troubled couples create a new relationship with better communication, fuller intimacy, and realistic hope for a better future together.

Daily Blog

The Intentional Divorce

Helping Couples Let Go with Dignity

Tammy Nelson • 10/21/2015

In today’s changing world, therapists need a new road map for helping couples end unions with their dignity intact, their sanity whole, and in a greater spirit of cooperation and good will.

Daily Blog

Therapy for Helping Couples Divorce with Dignity

Tammy Nelson on the Mechanics of the Intentional Divorce

Tammy Nelson • 7/17/2015

At one time in my career, I’d have considered divorce as an outcome of therapy to be a failure—by the couple and by me. But over the years, I’ve learned to think of it as another opportunity to help. I’ve learned that I can help couples end their union in as thoughtful and pragmatic a way as possible. In other words, both partners can come through the experience with their dignity intact, their sanity whole, and in a greater spirit of cooperation and goodwill—attributes they’ll need as they continue to share responsibilities for their investments, their interests and their children.

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Case Study

Second Adolescence: An Alternative to the Midlife Crisis

Tammy Nelson • 3/9/2018

Instead of viewing midlife as a time of emotional unraveling, therapists can see it as an opportunity to help clients gain a fuller sense of purpose in life’s later stages.

Magazine Article

The Intentional Divorce

Helping Couples Let Go with Dignity

Tammy Nelson • 7/1/2015

In today’s changing world, therapists need a new road map for helping couples end unions with their dignity intact, their sanity whole, and in a greater spirit of cooperation and good will.

Magazine Article

Case Study

Women Who Cheat: Understanding the Message of the Affair

Tammy Nelson • 5/1/2013

Far from being evidence of marital bankruptcy, a woman’s affair can be a way of expressing a desire for a different self and an opportunity to breathe life into a suffocating relationship.

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The New Monogamy

How Far Should We Go?

Tammy Nelson • 7/1/2010

Whether we like it or not, today's couples feel far less encumbered by the legal, social, and moral strictures of traditional marriage and its obligations. Increasing numbers are negotiating what they mean by "fidelity" and how they wish to define monogamy in their relationship.

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Case Study

Fantasy in Couples Therapy: Is encouraging sexual fantasies playing with fire?

Tammy Nelson • 11/1/2008

Many therapists assume that if they help couples improve their relationships, the improvement will naturally lead to a rewarding erotic life. But what if helping couples create a satisfying erotic life is the key to increasing their feelings of companionship and mutual connection, not the other way around?

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Tammy Nelson, PhD is a board certified sexologist, AASECT supervisor, Imago therapist, and author of Getting the Sex You Want and The New Monogamy.