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Caught in a Web

A World Where Life is Always Elsewhere

Fred Wistow • 8/8/2019

By Fred Wistow - Every day, every moment, we must wade through the flood of incoming alerts and emails urgently demanding our time and attention, all the while knowing that there’s an infinite ocean of stuff online that waits for us at all hours to stick our toe in so that it may then slowly begin to swallow us up . . . until we drown.

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The End.

How Did I Get Here So Fast?

Fred Wistow • 3/9/2018

A classic sci-fi movie that seems to leapfrog through eternity helps a man contemplate the mystery of his own aging.

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Turns in the Road

Highlights from the Networker Journey

Mary Sykes Wylie, Dusty Miller, Esther Perel, Frank Pittman, Fred Wistow, Gary Greenberg, Katy Butler, Laura Markowitz, Molly Layton, Rich Simon, Ron Taffel • 1/1/2017

Out of all the hundreds and hundreds of articles that have appeared in the Networker over the past four decades, we’ve chosen a small sampling that captures the magazine’s most journalistic side, conveying not so much the eternal verities of our profession, but the sense of reading a first draft of the field’s history. Among other things, you’ll find therapeutic methods that, as exciting as they seemed at the moment, didn’t stand the test of time as well as initial forays into discussing complex issues we’re still struggling with today. We’ve also added in a few examples of writing so immediate and compelling that they have an air of timelessness. Prepare yourself for an interesting journey.

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Caught in a Web

A World Where Life Is Always Elsewhere

Fred Wistow • 11/3/2016

Every day, every moment, we must wade through the flood of incoming alerts and emails urgently demanding our time and attention, all the while knowing that there’s an infinite ocean of stuff online that waits for us at all hours to stick our toe in so that it may then slowly begin to swallow us up . . . until we drown.

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Confronting Our Reluctance to Have an Honest Conversation About Race

A White New Yorker Shares Some Personal Reflections on American Race Relations

Fred Wistow • 12/4/2015

Whenever a public outcry or riot’s been triggered by yet another racially motivated assault on a black man or woman, politicians inevitably utter (and commentators then endlessly and faux-earnestly repeat), “We need to have a national conversation about race.” Even if I had the chance, I doubt I’d even try to engage in a cross-racial conversation about race. I’d be too afraid that I’d trip over my own words and say something provocative, offensive, stupid. And as far as I know, the people I know---white people---are in the same strange and astonishing boat.

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Black Unlike Me

Some Uncomfortable Reflections on Growing Up White

Fred Wistow • 11/18/2015

At a time when many are calling for a renewed national conversation about race, an aging, liberal, white New Yorker—who admits he’s never been a party to any such conversation, not with a black person anyway—shares some highly uncomfortable, extremely personal reflections.

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Black Unlike Me

Some Uncomfortable Reflections on Growing Up White

Fred Wistow • 11/2/2015

rtwrtwertAt a time when many are calling for a renewed national conversation about race, an aging, liberal, white New Yorker---who admits he’s never been a party to any such conversation, not with a black person anyway---shares some highly uncomfortable, extremely personal reflections.

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Finding Comfort in the Financial Crisis

Coping with the Switch from Poverty to Wealth and Back

Fred Wistow • 8/27/2015

In late 2008, a breathtaking realignment of our wealth occurred, and with it, our consciousness. This magical fairy tale that had somehow become reality started fading back into make believe. Just when we thought we were going to live happily ever after with no twists or turns in the golden road that lay before us, the carriage turned into a pumpkin. Yet, even as we fear the future and regret our stupidity and pine for our losses, can't we also simultaneously detect a strange and perverse comfort in the notion that maybe this wrenching course correction we're experiencing is sending us back to a place we're more at ease in?

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Exploring the Consciousness of Our Daily Habits

Falling Under the Trance of Routine

Fred Wistow • 11/26/2013

If a habit is a way of acting that, unconsciously and often compulsively, becomes fixed through repetition, then a mode of behavior that’s followed regularly and usually through choice might be termed a "practice."

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Creatures of Habit

Do We Really Choose How We Live Our Lives?

Fred Wistow • 11/5/2013

When routines and habits become as lifeless as the manner in which one brushes one’s teeth, when the choreography of one’s existence resembles a blindfolded slog through quicksand—rather than the Jets and Sharks leaping across the streets of the Upper West Side—something must be done.

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Caught in a Web

A World Where Life is Always Elsewhere

Fred Wistow • 8/8/2019

By Fred Wistow - Every day, every moment, we must wade through the flood of incoming alerts and emails urgently demanding our time and attention, all the while knowing that there’s an infinite ocean of stuff online that waits for us at all hours to stick our toe in so that it may then slowly begin to swallow us up . . . until we drown.

Daily Blog

Confronting Our Reluctance to Have an Honest Conversation About Race

A White New Yorker Shares Some Personal Reflections on American Race Relations

Fred Wistow • 12/4/2015

Whenever a public outcry or riot’s been triggered by yet another racially motivated assault on a black man or woman, politicians inevitably utter (and commentators then endlessly and faux-earnestly repeat), “We need to have a national conversation about race.” Even if I had the chance, I doubt I’d even try to engage in a cross-racial conversation about race. I’d be too afraid that I’d trip over my own words and say something provocative, offensive, stupid. And as far as I know, the people I know---white people---are in the same strange and astonishing boat.

Daily Blog

Black Unlike Me

Some Uncomfortable Reflections on Growing Up White

Fred Wistow • 11/2/2015

rtwrtwertAt a time when many are calling for a renewed national conversation about race, an aging, liberal, white New Yorker---who admits he’s never been a party to any such conversation, not with a black person anyway---shares some highly uncomfortable, extremely personal reflections.

Daily Blog

Finding Comfort in the Financial Crisis

Coping with the Switch from Poverty to Wealth and Back

Fred Wistow • 8/27/2015

In late 2008, a breathtaking realignment of our wealth occurred, and with it, our consciousness. This magical fairy tale that had somehow become reality started fading back into make believe. Just when we thought we were going to live happily ever after with no twists or turns in the golden road that lay before us, the carriage turned into a pumpkin. Yet, even as we fear the future and regret our stupidity and pine for our losses, can't we also simultaneously detect a strange and perverse comfort in the notion that maybe this wrenching course correction we're experiencing is sending us back to a place we're more at ease in?

Daily Blog

Exploring the Consciousness of Our Daily Habits

Falling Under the Trance of Routine

Fred Wistow • 11/26/2013

If a habit is a way of acting that, unconsciously and often compulsively, becomes fixed through repetition, then a mode of behavior that’s followed regularly and usually through choice might be termed a "practice."

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Easy Money

Maybe Our Parents Had it Right All Along

Fred Wistow • 3/1/2009

We're living through a breathtaking realignment of our consciousness about money, no longer lulled by the ever-sweeter melodies played by the Pied Piper of our times, the Dow Jones Industrial Average. Our challenge now is to let goof the fairy tales of endless wealth that gave us such childish comfort.

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The Non-Remembrance of Things Past

Fred Wistow • 1/1/2009

Has your memory become erratic, unreliable, fuzzy at the edges, or nowhere to be found, like those barely remembered dreams that wriggle out of your grasp in the middle of the night? If so, take heart! You're not alone.

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The Facts of Life

Learning to Connect the Dots

Fred Wistow • 3/1/1988

This piece started out as a reportorial piece on sex therapy, but nontherapist Fred Wistow soon blew past that assignment to investigate the ways in which our terror of intimacy can subvert the fragile magic of sexual contact. Here, he lyrically conveys the thrill of genuine lovemaking and the terrible losses we sustain when we run from it.

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Fred Wistow is a contributing editor to the Psychotherapy Networker and lives in New York City.