From an Evening of Storytelling 2018
What happens to a buttoned-up young therapist when things get out of hand in his office?
Why Homework is So Important, and Six Ways to Make Sure Your Clients Do It
By David Treadway - Over the years, the couples in my practice who’ve actually done homework exercises have reported communicating better and being more affectionate and more supportive of each other than couples who haven’t. To make sure I’m successful in motivating them, I use these six techniques.
Taking Therapy Home: Motivating Couples to Do Their Homework
Motivating couples to do their therapy homework may be the key to successful outcomes.
A Special Feature from Our Family Matters Department
By David Treadway - With his father's help, a young therapist contemplates the biggest gamble of his life.
What Do You Tell Your Clients...and Yourself?
By David Treadway - Many of us of a certain age live with the fear of early-onset dementia, cognitive impairment, Alzheimer’s—call it what you will. But incrementally becoming a vacant body to be tended, fed, changed, pitied was my worst nightmare.
A Diary of Riding Out the Storm
A therapist discovers what it means to be fully present, even in the face of the terrifying prospect of a declining mind.
A Meditation Retreat Helps a Therapist Confront Cancer Trauma
I've been working hard on integrating Buddhist teachings and meditation practice into my life for six years now. But none of my spiritual practice prepared for my stage IV non-Hodgkins lymphoma that turned my life upside down two years ago. I was extremely sick and given a small chance to survive. In the first weeks, I spoke easily about the transformational power of illness, the gift of cancer. I thought I'd become enlightened. But in reality, I was out of my mind, quite dissociative. Buddhism doesn't mean being detached, uncaring, disengaged. I came to this retreat out of desperation. I'm here to learn how to live again.
When Should We Stop Seeing Difficult Therapy Clients?
After 22 years, I can still see Amy sitting there, cross-legged, with her arms folded across her chest. This case had been emotionally devastating for me. Amy began calling me at home. Then she began making hang-up phone calls, started cutting her wrists again and threatened suicide. Years after terminating therapy with Amy, she called me again, begging for me to treat her. I agreed. She was caught in the vortex once more and, like a complete fool, so was I.
I was stunned. “So, Glen, it seems like you’re really hurt that Julie would bring this moment up in our therapy without warning,” I said. I tried to be a comfort to each of them, normalizing how embarrassing secrets can sometimes be blurted out in the supposed safety of the therapy room. Meanwhile, the couple huddled in their separate corners of the sofa without looking at each other. They endured the rest of the hour and got out of there as fast as they could—without making another appointment. In the following weeks, they didn’t return my phone messages, and I felt as if I’d blown the case. But after a month and half, I was delighted when they phoned to set up another appointment.
Questions of Gender: A therapist struggles with the clinical choices he’s made
A therapist takes an unflinching look at a puzzling case that spanned 14 years, wondering if he made a wrong turn.