How to Help Closed-Off Young Men Cross the Communication Divide
By Adam Cox - As we raise and support the next generation of boys, it's vital that we give them the tools to be full participants in society by helping them find the words to define themselves and relate to others. To do so, therapists and parents alike must explore new means of engaging silent youngsters, going beyond the business-as-usual inquiries about thoughts and feelings.
Helping Unresponsive Clients Expand Their Limited Emotional Vocabulary
By Adam Cox - As we raise and support the next generation of boys, it's vital that we help them find the words to define themselves and relate to others. To do so, therapists and parents alike must go beyond the business-as-usual inquiries about thoughts and feelings to discover conversational approaches that stimulate a real connection and encourage them to open up to a broader range of verbal expression.
Today's Media Culture is Leaving Boys at a Loss for Words
My year treating high school boys taught me a lesson that still guides my work: if words are the currency of most interpersonal exchange, many boys are on the verge of social bankruptcy. When it comes to communication challenges, gender discrepancies are staggering. Boys make up 75 percent of special-education classes, are far more frequently diagnosed with syndromes ranging from ADHD to autism that involve social-learning problems, and account for nearly 80 percent of children identified as emotionally troubled. Our world is increasingly driven by communication and the need for emotional intelligence---attributes that generally don't come easily for boys---and they're clearly falling behind. In spite of the still-potent icon of the silent male in the American psyche, there are far fewer life options today---whether academic, career, or relational---that can accommodate a boy (or man) of few words.