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New Ways To Work Effectively With Tough Couples

There are few tougher clinical challenges than confronting the entrenched hostility, dashed dreams, and raw pain of troubled couples. Here’s a thought-provoking, practical webcast series that not only explores the common difficulties of couples therapy, but also shows you how to do more effective and rewarding work with even your most clinically challenging couples.

Join Ellyn Bader, Peter Pearson, Hedy Schleifer, William Doherty, Esther Perel, Jette Simon, and David Schnarch..

You'll learn how to:
  • Structure first sessions that pave the way for more successful therapy.
  • Become more grounded and at ease handling intense emotionality in the session.
  • Handle hot-button issues like affairs, porn use, bitter conflicts, and differing divorce agendas.
  • More skillfully deal with the classic dynamic of the angry wife and the withdrawn husband.
  • Master the craft of getting to the therapeutic truth quickly and powerfully.

6 Leading Experts! 6 Information-Packed Sessions!

Session 1

Overcoming Your Fears of Doing Couples Therapy

Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson

Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D.

Move past your resistance to the volatility and intensity of doing couples therapy by learning how to:

  • Develop procedures and materials that prepare clients to engage in therapy more productively.
  • Encourage differentiation in the very first session.
  • Use structured exercises that give couples an opportunity to take more responsibility for change.
  • Avoid common traps that reduce the chance of therapy succeeding.
  • Develop styles of engagement that distinguish the needs of conflict-avoidant couples from highly conflicted couples.

Session 2

Expanding Your Emotional Range as a Clinician

Hedy Schleifer

Hedy Schleifer, M.A., L.M.H.C.

Develop your capacity to establish a nourishing connection with couples and better handle their intense reactivity by:

  • Distinguishing between the therapist’s responsibility to manage therapy and getting caught up in the content that preoccupies clients.
  • Helping partners to more clearly envision both their current survival dance and their dream of a better relationship.
  • Learning how to help partners visit each other's experiential world, especially the “tough neighborhoods.”
  • Developing your personal comfort with intense emotionality and your ability to help coach clients through their own intense feeling states.
  • Understanding how to create a relational space in therapy that encourages risk taking and deep emotional learning.

Session 3

In or Out? Helping Couples with Different Divorce Agendas

William Doherty

William Doherty, Ph.D.

Clarify goals and improve your success rate with ambivalent couples considering the possibility of divorce by learning how to:

  • Assess whether both partners are truly customers for couples therapy or if you are dealing with a mixed agenda couple.
  • Avoid the three most common mistakes with ambivalent couples facing divorce.
  • Present the goals of Discernment Counseling in contrast with Couples Therapy.
  • Combine individual and joint sessions to highlight the most meaningful personal learning for each partner.
  • Handle secrets that may emerge in individual sessions with each partner without feeling ethically compromised.

Session 4

Confidentiality, Secrets, and How to Deal with Affairs

Esther Perel

Esther Perel, M.A., L.M.F.T.

Explore an approach that challenges conventional therapeutic wisdom about rebuilding trust and intimacy after an affair by:

  • Disputing the idea that there is a victim and perpetrator in every affair scenario.
  • Recognizing that some affairs can actually transform, rather than traumatize, a relationship.
  • Creating a stable container in the midst of crisis for exploring what the affair means for both partners.
  • Making a distinction between being a detective and being an investigator in determining how much information needs to be revealed about the affair.
  • Having patience in helping couples discover what repair means for them in the aftermath of an affair.

Session 5

Angry Women, Withdrawn Men: Breaking Through in Couples Therapy

Jette Simon

Jette Simon, Lic.

Expand your repertoire about approaching the classic dynamic of couples therapy—an angry woman clashing with a withdrawn man—by:

  • Creating a welcoming atmosphere of safety in the initial session for both partners.
  • Highlighting individual responsibility by focusing each partner on their own behaviors that cause the other person pain.
  • Developing methods for setting boundaries with the angry partner while defining anger as a protest against feeling disconnected.
  • Highlighting positive features of the couple’s relationship in the first session.
  • Teaching couples a range of processes from Imago Relationship Therapy, including mirroring, validation and the Behavior Change Request.

Session 6

Truth-Telling in Couples Work

David Schnarch

David Schnarch, Ph.D.

Explore a clinical method that challenges clients by focusing on their sense of adult responsibility rather than childish entitlement by:

  • Understanding the limits of empathy and attachment-based psychotherapy.
  • Avoiding collusive alliances based on manipulation in favor of collaborative alliances based on straight talk.
  • Recognizing partners’ power to mind map and understand the impact of their own actions even when they don’t acknowledge it.
  • Learning how to create an atmosphere of challenge and truth-telling as early as possible to avoid manipulation and time-wasting.
  • Bringing out the best in clients, which often emerges when they are coming clean about what is the worst in them.

Two Bonus Sessions Free!

Bonus Session 1

Exploring The Logic
of Eroticism

Learn how to approach a range of taboo,
hard-to-discuss sexual issues.
Marty Klein, Ph.D.
Bonus Session 2

Harnessing the Power
of Emotion with EFT

Expand your ability to stay attuned, deepen the emotions, and use your own feelings with couples.
Kathryn Rheem, Ed.D.
Marty Klein Kathryn Rheem
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Have you wondered...

What's Really Going On?
  • ...why you have so few couples in your weekly caseload?

  • ...why you can’t seem to apply your individual therapy skills with couples?

  • to keep volatile, couples sessions from getting out of control?

  • to get couples to stop “playing nice” and face the hard truths they’re avoiding?

  • to handle the loaded secrets that partners have “confided” in you?

We Bring You Freewheeling Conversations,
Probing Questions, Invaluable Answers.

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New Developments Are Emerging All The Time.
Explore Them With Experts Working At The Leading Edge.

Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., and Peter Pearson, Ph.D., couples therapists for more than 25 years, are the founders and directors of The Couples Institute and creators of the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. They’re the authors of In Quest of the Mythical Mate: A Developmental Approach to Diagnosis and Treatment in Couples Therapy.

Hedy Schleifer, M.A., L.M.H.C., is an internationally known couples therapist, workshop presenter, and clinical trainer. She’s pioneered the training of Imago Relationship therapists internationally. She’s the founder of the Tikkun Learning Center, an educational institution through which she trains therapists in Encounter-Centered Couples Therapy.

William Doherty, Ph.D., is a professor and director of the Citizen Professional Center at the University of Minnesota. He’s the author or coauthor of 12 books on families and family therapy, including Take Back Your Marriage, Take Back Your Kids, and Family Therapy, with Susan McDaniel.

Esther Perel, M.A., L.M.F.T., is a master trainer and an acknowledged international authority on couples, culture, and sexuality. She's the author of the international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, and is the recipient of the 2009 book award from the Society for Sex Therapy and Research.

Jette Simon, Lic., who conducts basic and advanced training programs in Imago Relationship Therapy, is the director of the Washington, D.C. Institute for Couples Therapy, and is a Senior Clinical Instructor for Imago International. She’s the author of Imago: The Therapy of Love.

David Schnarch, Ph.D., is the director of the Crucible Institute in Colorado. His books include Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship and Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships.

Marty Klein, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist, has contributed more than 100 articles to such publications as The Journal of Sex Research and San Francisco Medicine. He’s authored six books, most recently Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex—and How to Get It.

Kathryn Rheem, Ed.D., is certified by the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy as a therapist, trainer, and supervisor. She's the director of the Washington Baltimore Center for EFT, located in Falls Church, Virginia.

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The content of this course is at the introductory - intermediate level.