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By Rich Simon As therapists, many of us practice in two different worlds. In the first, we see polite, well-behaved, articulate clients with solid values. They engage fully in therapy, talk cogently about their problems, listen attentively to our responses, make reasonably good-faith efforts to follow our suggestions, and sooner or later get better. No wonder we genuinely like these people! What’s happening at these moments? It may be that therapy has triggered an old wound linked to a disordered attachment so early in life that the client doesn’t have words or thoughts to describe it. When this occurs, the client may experience a need to withdraw--a need that sometimes resonates with a therapist’s own early attachment wounds. In this workshop, we’ll discuss how to read the cues beneath surface verbal interactions signaling that a raw nerve of early, unacknowledged trauma has been touched and dissociation has set in. You’ll learn how to help clients recognize their dissociation, read their own somatic cues, and get in touch with buried feelings. We’ll discuss steps you can take to reassure and engage clients’ inner child, and explore how to help them challenge destructive messages and internalize more positive beliefs.
Marion Solomon, Ph.D., is the director of clinical training at the Lifespan Learning Institute and an instructor in the Department of Psychiatry, David Geffin School of Medicine at UCLA. Her books include Narcissism and Intimacy and Lean on Me: The Power of Positive Dependence in Intimate Relationships.