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"You were approaching our problems from a different angle than we expected," Richard confesses. "I know this is a short period of time to explain our situation at home, and maybe we were focusing a lot on the last couple of months, when we were really upset and trying to enforce rules. Before that, Whitney had more freedom."
"It was interesting," adds Mary. "You were seeing things I never saw before."
Mary's comment is a surprise, and it's encouraging.
"I'd like to tell you a bit about my ideas about families," I say. "I see people as interconnected. If a child is having problems, I look at the parents and at the ways that family members connect. Of course it's true that Whitney lies. The question becomes why. I was impressed, Mary, by your pessimism, and your fear of catastrophe. Some people see life through rose-colored glasses, but you . . . ."
"I only see things getting worse," she finishes my thought.
"Yes. I'd like to spend some time exploring with you who you were before you met each other," I say.
"My parents divorced when I was 5," says Mary, speaking without emotion. "I left home when I was 18, on a Christmas Eve. There was a snowstorm. I was supposed to be in by 10 o'clock, but I didn't get home until midnight, and so my mother threw me out."