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By Rich Simon As therapists, many of us practice in two different worlds. In the first, we see polite, well-behaved, articulate clients with solid values. They engage fully in therapy, talk cogently about their problems, listen attentively to our responses, make reasonably good-faith efforts to follow our suggestions, and sooner or later get better. No wonder we genuinely like these people! | Case Studies - Page 12 |
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"I'm thinking about what you both bring from the past, and how that affects Whitney. How old were you, Richard, when you met Mary?" I ask "Twenty-three." "You were a young kid marrying Mary and Whitney. How did you deal with both of them?" "One day at a time. I just stuck it out." "How did you gain her trust?" He hesitates and then says, "Once we broke up. She wanted to return to the life she had before." "I decided it was time to get out of the marriage and go on," his wife says. "We didn't talk, and I thought maybe it was too much for him—Whitney and me dropping on him all at once. We returned to the town where my family was living, but then we decided to make one last try. There was a lot of tension. I kept a lot to myself." "How did you solve it? How did you become a couple?" "I made an effort, read some books," Richard says. "When did Whitney become your daughter?" "I always felt her as my daughter," he responds. "We were very attached. I knew that if we split I didn't have legal binding with Whitney." "Whitney was a difficult child," her mother adds. "If she didn't get her way she'd cry and cry, to the point of throwing up. Growing up, she thought that was the way to get things."
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