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By Rich Simon It seems astonishing that even just two or three decades ago, parents not only pretty much knew what was expected of them to turn their offspring into civilized adults, but they could actually count on society to back them up. Even more astounding, kids seemed to understand this, too. Even if they rebelled against, yelled about, or sullenly resented how “unfair” adults were, they seemed to acknowledge adult authority and realize that they would just have to wait until they turned 18 to get for themselves the keys to the kingdom of grown-up independence. | Run with It! - Page 4 |
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That's a good question. I'm not sure how I'll know the answer. I'm pretty sure I can't use my old intuitive method to tune in to my body, since it's no longer reliable. Instead, I just sit. I'm blank. As the seconds go by, I begin to feel a subtle body relaxation. My body isn't in pain. It's fine with the idea of running. "My body says it wants to run," I answer. I'm astounded to be saying this. Andrew nods and says, "Go!" I stand up, take a breath, and begin to run. I'm not running fast and I'm breathing hard, but if I listen to my body, it isn't in pain, it isn't unhappy--it's just moving. I try to let my body do what it wants and have my mind just be a passenger along for the ride. This isn't easy, because my mind wants to do its old thing, to be in control, but as soon as that happens and my mind, prying, asks my body, "Is this wise?" my body immediately weakens. So I try to just stay in the moment, breathe, and focus on nothing but making my body move through space. I run. As I run, I realize that this is a new way for my mind to be with my body: to be the passenger. My body is in charge--it's running me, instead of the other way around. My knees go up and down, my hands pump, I pant, I'm moving forward, my body is contented. I see Andrew in the distance waving his hands, urging me on. I ignore him and focus on nothing. I'm running, my body is talking to me, and I'm finally letting it speak. Lynn Grodzki, M.S.W., is a psychotherapist and business coach in private practice, and author of several books on practice building. She's also the founder of Healingwithbasketball.com, a volunteer organization that helps women rebound from breast cancer. Contact: lynn@privatepracticesuccess.com. Letters to the Editor about this department may be e-mailed to letters@psychnteworker.org. |