Therapists must offer abused children a different felt experience of who they are.
More than any other positive emotion, love resides within connections. It extends beyond personal boundaries to characterize the vibe that pulsates between and among people. It can even energize whole social networks or inspire a crowd to get up and dance.
If therapists are going to bring genuine insights—not just soundbites—from neuroscience into the practice of therapy, they need the nuanced, sophisticated understanding of the brain that gifted explicators like Stephen Porges and Norman Doidge offer.
Most of us put much too much faith in the power of our conscious minds to bring about lasting change. Instead of looking up the higher branches of consciousness, we should be looking down into the nervous system settings that generate impulses and inclinations.
A woman discovers that giving someone permission to sleep can be a deep expression of love.